Stuck after hip replacement

[Isabella1978]

Just need somewhere to vent really... am 4 weeks out from hip replacement surgery and have an 8 month old and 11 year old.
11 year old away on week long residential so not home at 3:20 as normal, husband went back to work 3 weeks ago despite promising to stay home (no pressure from office at all as he worked from home).
He has been going in a bit later and coming home for 5pm so fewer hours apart from this week. I have just had to ring him as baby reversed under electric recliner chair i am sat on so I can't get out. He is still at work and won't be home til 6:15 or so. No reason, he just thought it would be ok as I have coped so far! Part of the reason I have coped is due to amazing 11 year old being home to help so I don't get stuck for whole day.
Have managed to wrangle myself off the chair, onto floor to sort out baby but now in agony and hip replacement is now grinding when it wasn't before.
Just feeling sorry for myself and seethingly frustrated at tosser of husband choosing this week of all weeks to get back to more of his normal hours.
PS I know no pressure from work as they told him to work from home this week to ensure I was ok.

[PhoebefromFriends]

That sounds awful OP, can you sit your DH down tonight and as calmly as possible speak to him about what you need esp this week with your DD away. Do you have any other family who could help out? He might not have realised how difficult it is to heal after such a major surgery.

[Furano]

I mean you need full time child care for the baby.

What on Earth was he thinking leaving you in sole care?

[Troels]

Oh dear, poor you. He definitly needs a talking too. You need to be looked after as well as the baby. He can only leave you alone with the baby once you are fully able to use the hip properly, what if you damage the healing, you could end up with all sorts of trouble. Call the ortho doctors/clinic whoever your contact is and tell them about the grinding and what happened.

[user1471501171]

It is ridiculous to think you could cope at home at all with the age your children are.
You may have dislocated your hip if it is sore and grinding. Might be worth a call to 111 to see if you need an x-ray.
Either way have serious words with him tonight. It is a safety risk to your children to be left alone with you at present.

[BackToTheFuschia7]

What is he thinking!? You’re still recovering from major surgery. He really needs to be at home to look after the baby, and to look after you. Especially if he’s been lucky enough to be allowed to WFH.

[Isabella1978]

Hello everyone,
Sorry was baby feeding time!
The baby is safe in my care as I don't need to carry her up or downstairs. The level of pain I was in before the surgery was around 8/9 even with morphine, after the surgery I am at a 2/3 so practically dancing around the place!
I can honestly guarantee that if any of you were to drop by you would find a clean, happy, well fed baby and a clean but lived in house.
I am just aggrieved that hubbie has chosen the week of ds being away to work so late. He is off Thursday and Friday as we are going to beach and then I have physio Friday - still not driving so he has to play chauffeur.
He isn't a mean man it is just thoughtlessness because I just get on so give the impression I can cope with more than I can. Will be asking telling him to work from home tomorrow or to make sure he is home by 4.
Thank you for replying and the concern, as I said I just feel grumpy about it.

[ilovesooty]

Have you had a particularly complex replacement?

I only ask because I was able to drive and return to work four weeks after mine.

Sorry to hear you're struggling though especially if your husband could work from home.