Sick kid at school

[AmITheOnlyOneWhoCares]

Yesterday my son came home and said bob (not real name) was sick at lunch in the dinner Hall.
Today he came out of school and le waiting for his siblings i asked who he had played with and one of the names he mentioned was bob. I wen back to speak to the teacher and ask why bob was back less than 24hrs after been sick. .. she basically snapped my head off and said it's no one's business to be questioning the head teachers decisions on this.

Now back story.....my son was sick all weekend and off Monday. Also a parents involvement activity afternoon was cancelled on Monday as so many children and staff were off with a sickness bug.

Aibu to think if there is a bug going round then they should enforce the 48hr sickness rule?? Aibu to be annoyed that this kids has come back so soon and could infect my child again (amongst others ) and I'll end up another weekend cleanings sick and having to take more time off work as I actually do keep mine off 48 hrs? ??

[AgentHannahWells]

It doesn't good but I suppose Bob could have a condition where he vomits but isn't infectious?

My friends son used to throw up if he drank a glass of water too quickly. It was a nightmare for her, work wise, if he did it at school, she'd have to let down her employer for no 'real' reason.

[exLtEveDallas]

Most schools are 24 hours not 48 now.

You don't know that Bob had a bug - he may well have chugged his water bottle/stuck his fingers down his throat/ coughed so hard he was sick. It's none of your business and was not up to you to say anything.

[ineedamoreadultieradult]

If the head made the decision then I would assume that the head has knowledge of Bob's medical history that may mean his being sick at lunch had nothing to do with a sickness bug.

[MizCracker]

I would be very surprised if "most" schools only enforce a 24 hour policy (my children's school is 48) because that is, frankly, negligent.

[GhoulWithADragonTattoo]

Our school is 24 hours too.

[AmITheOnlyOneWhoCares]

Our school is definitely 48 hrs
We have spoken to bobs family many times. He's a very healthy child who attends the same sports clubs as us and more on top.
My dc says he was sent home...surely if it was something the head was aware of happening often he would have stayed in school.

There is a bug going round which hit a large number in school...surely it's the heads responsibility to ensure every sickness at this time is given 48hr off afterwards...just in case?

[Psychobabble123]

Schools are 24 hours here too once ypu reach year 2, as children are expected to be able to wash their hands thoroughly by then.
DD1 can be sick if she sneezes or coughs too hard, he may not be ill at all. Either way, its absolutely sod all to do with you whats going on with Bob, the teacher was right to put you in your place!

[Naty1]

Tbh kids are contagious before and then also after the 24/48h. I expect that is more to do with ensuring they are not temporarily feeling better and start being sick again, once they eat again etc.
Things like hand foot and mouth are contagious in stool for about a month after.

[AlonsoTigerHeart]

Youve got no right to ask avoit info into bobs health.
The school were right

[saison4]

I get why you are annoyed but it really isn't your business.

[Lethaldrizzle]

Kids get sick

[alltheworld]

Nhs guidelines are 48. If people respected that then there would be less sickness going around

[PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks]

YABU. Could he have cystic fibrosis and be swallowing phlegm? I had to remind DS1 to spit instead of swallowing.

[Scabetty]

You should have raised it with the Head not the teacher. But it isn’t your business.

[AmITheOnlyOneWhoCares]

I wasn't asking about bobs health. I was asking why they didn't enforce the 48hr sickness rule.

The fact some of you have 24hrs rule is null and void in this case as ours is 48hr the whole way through the school.

Anyway maybe I should just accept my child is going to get sick again because some parents just don't follow rules and teachers don't seem to care either.

[chickenowner]

I understand that it's annoying but the teacher really can't comment on another child to you. If he/she did than they could get into a lot of trouble.

It's possible that the child was not sick because of an infectious illness, and there is no reason that you would know all the details about their health, regardless of how well you know their family.

Schools and teachers generally know a lot of things that we are not allowed to discuss with anyone else.

[missadasmith]

not your business. you should not have asked. Also, and this may not be a popular view, not every parent can take easily time off in such cases. Sometimes, there is no other choice then sending the child in if it is fine the next day.

[PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks]

Because if it's CF it's not a stomach bug.

[ineedamoreadultieradult]

You simply do not know that they haven't followed the rule. You do not know everything about Bob so you can't possibly judge. My DS was sick at school because he got a football booted into his stomach from close range so he wasn't made to stay off for 48hrs. If anyone had questioned the teacher about this they would have had a similar response as you got from the teacher.

[Idontbelieveinthemoon]

DS1 has migraines and has had them since he was tiny. He vomits with every one, gets sent home, sleeps the day away then goes back to school the following day because he's genuinely never in 12 years had a stomach bug. The only time he's ever vomited is due to a migraine.

It's possible Bob could have a condition which means the 48 hour rule can be waived. It's also possible that Bob's family wouldn't have alerted you to his condition just because your DC attend the same clubs. I don't tell people about DS1's migraines simply because there's no reason for people unconnected with our lives to know.

[AmITheOnlyOneWhoCares]

Definitely no cf. He's usually fit and healthy.

Anyway it seems I was bu to ask why the rule wasn't implemented. I shall leave it here and go be annoyed elsewhere.

[Theimpossiblegirl]

The school were in the right, it really is none of your business . I used to teach a Bob who suffered from migraines which could make him throw up, poor kid. We wouldn't expect him to miss 48 hours of school after an episode as he was often fine a few hours later.

[Psychobabble123]

Yes the NHS have 48 hrs, for the same reason as infant schools, ad protection against poor hygiene. Workplaces etc don't have it because people are expected to be able to wash their habdshands sufficiently.

[Blizzardagain]

Maybe he gagged on his food. Regardless, the school can't speak about his health with you.

[Idontbelieveinthemoon]

Anyway maybe I should just accept my child is going to get sick again because some parents just don't follow rules and teachers don't seem to care either.

Yes, because this kind of sweeping statement means you're really coming across well. All teachers can be categorised by this one statement, certainly.

I teach. I have a class of 27 children. Their medical history is private. If I was asked why a child had done x, y or z by an entirely unconnected parent I'd probably respond abruptly because, frankly, my head is full of far more important stuff than the nosiness of strangers. If your child is educated, happy, healthy and looked-after at school you have little cause to complain.