Lets start from the beginning.... when I was about 7, I became very poorly with epilepsy that was undiagnosed until I was about 9 and I was in and out of hospital for tests, scans, seizures, monitoring etc. My mum was obviously always with me and would even sleep in my bed with me as my seizures were always at night. Basically she was my carer until I was about 12 and we've always been very close and chatty with each other.
I am now 24 and in the last few years she just seems to snipe and dig at me and control me and judge me and hurt my feelings TBH!
Since I started putting on weight at about 18 she's always said things like "that wouldn't suit your shape try this" (hands me a pair of hareem pants and a straight tunic) OR "your skins bad today isn't it, is that spot sore, did you know you have a big whitehead there?" (I had terrible acne as a teenager and still get the odd pimple now) she even used to hold me down and squeeze my spots until I cried and lost my temper with her! 😭
She loves to have control over everything around her and would always sulk if people didn't do what she wanted.
This obviously changed when I was about 18 as I didn't expect to be treated like a child but expected to pay rent and work like an adult. Yet I was called a selfish bitch and told to do as I'm told or I'd be kicked out!
So I moved in with BF about 18 months ago and we love it but she still manages to hurt my feelings or wind me up at every chance.
My parents have about 5x the income we do and when we say we can't afford something they seem annoyed and say "you're so antisocial" when really we are trying to scrape by and pay off our credit card!
We always get painted as the horrible people when we have to leave a party early (I say early but her parties usually start at 2pm and go on to 2am and we leave at about 11) as BF is working overtime to try and save some money up or I have work the next day and the rest of the family want to stay until the end so we do end up looking like party poopers!
We are trying to save money for a holiday and some baby stuff as we are planning to TTC in next few months, but I just can't be bothered talking to her about it as she will try and control everything and throw digs at me. She already knows we want kids and frequently says things like "you could do with getting a bit more fit before TTC or you'll struggle" I'm a size 18 and told her I am trying to lose some weight but she made fun of me for it saying "how when you never get off your arse?" Cannot count the amount of times she's said to me "you'll need to be tested for gestational diabetes as soon as you get pregnant because that's likely to happen"
I am just beginning to really HATE her. These are just some of the hundreds of things she does all the time and I can't even talk to her about it or she just cries and sulks until I say it doesn't matter 😡 AIBU when I say it will never be the same again between us!?
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Hafa9141 · 23/04/2018 16:27
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