My sister in law is getting married in early August in the UK, but her husband to be is German and they are going to have the party in Germany so its closer to his family. I think its a lovely idea. We have been invited to both the UK and German part. However, I worked out yesterday that its going to cost us just under £1000 to get my DS (4) and DD (8mths) to Germany by air or a 15 hr car trip not including the stops for 4 yr old bladders/boredom. This is just the travel, its not near a major city so all the flights are horrendous. Unfortunately this year has been tough financially, I'm the main earner and by then I will be on the tail end of mat leave (no income at all) and my DH is just over minimum wage so we can just about cover the basics when I'm not at work. He also doesn't get paid for leave so we wouldn't be able to afford to be away for more than a week. That means we would be traveling for at least 4 days of a 7 day holiday and its toting up to over £700 even if we drive and camp. We didn't intend to holiday this year at all but this was all announced last week so we don't have a huge amount of time to save either and I'm starting to panic a bit.
AIBU to say sorry we can't attend the party in Germany? I feel bad as I think it was moved from October to accommodate us as DS starts school and I know my husbands family will be upset. I also feel we will not really be at the party much as it doesn't start until 7pm so one or the other of the kids will need to be sat with in the hotel room (on site). My husband is willing to do the talk but I feel guilty for getting him to do it, by worrying about the travel and the money.
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Not want to spend £1000 to attend a wedding party
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jaffercakesandcheese · 24/03/2018 01:43
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