Dd is in her first year at a top uni, studying a humanities subject. She’s just coming to the end of her second term this week, and exams start in early May.
She’s always been extremely motivated to do well academically - she worked ridiculously hard for all her school exams, from Year 7 End of Years to GCSEs, AS levels and A levels. By GCSEs we were having to force her to go to bed at 10pm each night rather than carrying on revising, and by the time of her A levels it got to the point where her laptop and all her study materials had to be in our bedroom overnight, because she’d start reading through notes in bed. She ended up getting A*s in all her GCSEs and A levels, so she clearly didn’t need all the extra revision she thought she did.
Having got all As at gcse though actually seemed to increase the pressure she put on herself - she seemed to have this sense that if she didn’t get all As in her A levels that she’d have ruined her “matching set”.
Now that she’s an adult and at uni, I’m getting really worried that her old toxic habits are getting really engrained - I called her this morning and she sounded so tired, she eventually admitted that she’d done two all nighters in a row to get essays done.
She’ll be home on Saturday for 4 weeks, but I’m worried about the effect that 4 weeks of non-stop revising will have on her mental and physical health.
Would I be unreasonable to suggest to her that she needs to take a year out of uni to address these issues she has?
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cheaperbythedozen25 · 22/03/2018 21:51
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