Would this piss you off

[RebelRebel79]

I work in a male dominated industry. Every time I mention someone new at my work (we have just got a new member in my immediate team) my dh in a jokey way asks if they are “fit” or a “hunk”. It really pisses me off. The newest guy isn’t. But even if he was why would it matter? My dh works with young girls half his age and I don’t worry about if they are attractive! I know he trusts me so I don’t know why he says it, or why it pisses me off so much but it just does! Just having a rant really I know IANBU.

[DairyisClosed]

Surely he's just poking fun at you or alternatively fishing for compliments.

[InDubiousBattle]

Yeah YAB a bit U. Your dh is feeling insecure and seeking reassurance. Either give him it or try and address the reason that he needs it.

[PeapodBurgundy]

It wouldn't bother me, but there are many small things that irritate me no end that likely only bother me, so no, YANBU. Have you told him it irritates you?

[Greenyogagirl]

If it’s every time that would piss me off too

[LastOneDancing]

What happens if you say 'he is quite fit actually'?

Yeah I think it would get in my nerves to. Insecurity is never an attractive trait.

[RebelRebel79]

Thanks for replies - given me pause for thought actually. it’s the implication (maybe i am projecting) that I would do something if they were fit which annoys me so much.

His insecurity probably stems from when we got together as we were a bit on and off at the beginning. However after more than 10 years and 3 dc together I would have hoped he knows he’s the only one I’m interested in. We obviously need to work on this tho

[Greenyogagirl]

Next time just say ‘why are you so interested, do you want me to pass your number along?’

[sparklepops123]

Do it back to him