Friend has turned into an 'instamum'...

[Lotsofsausage]

and it's all so bloody fake, aibu to let the friendship fizzle? I can't bear it. She used to be fun, feisty, etc. Ended up having 2 kids with a nightmare of a bloke, who treats her like crap, does loads of drugs, has gone them in a right financial mess and is a poor father, I've tried to be very supportive and understanding over the years as its her choice, etc. All she ever talks about is how he's let her down but she hasn't LTB. The frustrating thing is she's got some perfect life on instagram, loads of followers, eats 'vegan plant based goodness' all the time (bollocks, she get's domino's in whenever I'm there) keeps banging on about 'slow' living I find it all so cringeworthy. It's obviously escapism but I don't understand why you'd put more energy into sorting out your online life than your offline one when your kids are reaI! don't see her much these days because I've taken a step back but I have no desire to see her and she wants to come and stay soon. Anybody else lost a friend to instagram? It's bloody worse than juice plus!

[AnneLovesGilbert]

She’s unhappy and doing what she can to make herself feel better.

By all means stop being her friend but judging her isn’t helping anyone.

Poor woman.

[DeltaRomeo]

Feel your pain, my friend too has gone to the dark side, showing life as perfect, loving husband, perfect relationship with kids, etc, when in reality DH treats her like shit and she is very controlling with kids, friends, to be truthful is not what she and her DH portray.

[Whatthefoxgoingon]

Everyone with a perfect life on instagram is either showing the edited highlights or is blatantly lying. Your friend is the latter and it’s quite sad really. Just let it go.

[SachaStark]

Have her over and casually put on the "Nosedive" episode of Black Mirror.

[DeltaRomeo]

Should have said that she/they show everything rosy on insta/fb/whatsapp constantly, every meal, trip, event.

[OddBoots]

People like to make themselves feel better and compensate however they can, especially if they have children in the situation - they usually have no idea how irritating or eye rolling other people can find it.

[Justwaitingforaline]

Is she quite a popular instamum by any chance? I know of one who ticks all of those boxes...

[RedPandaMama]

Have some empathy. I'm not in a situation like your friend but my life isn't anywhere near perfect - currently I'm stressed about money, my grandad is dying and parents are in the early stages of a divorce, DP is working long hours. We aren't having a great time. Not every day is good but there is good in every day, I find some piece and positivity by taking photos of the good parts so hopefully in the future I'll remember the nice bits, not the awful bits. No one wants to share that their life is a mess. Either take a step back from the friendship or step up and be a friend.

The bit about pretending to be a vegan or whatever is though. That's weird.

[Lotsofsausage]

justwaiting popular compared to my measly amount of 'followers' but not one of the celebs not by any means. I suspect lots of them are in the same position though, hence spending all that time inventing a perfect life online. I just don't know how they can look people they know IRL in the eye, I mean they know we can see their pages!

[mintich]

My friend became a bit of an insta blogger about her perfect relationship. Turned out he was hitting her. I think when people are going all out to prove they are perfect online, there is probably something else going on

[Lotsofsausage]

RedPandaMama mine too. I've had possibly one of the hardest years one could imagine. It's not a competition. I also have empathy - as I say I've been there through thick and thin for her re relationship etc (and not got a whole lot back now I think of it) I just can't bear this fake other life, It's so preachy and embarrassing to look at it. perhaps I can unfollow and then I Won't feel awkward when I see her f2f.

[lolaflores]

I have let someone drift off. Recently her public life versus reality behind the front door was becoming too wide to ignore anymore. It was getting harder and harder for me to stay quiet, so I have decided to move along quietly.
I think she gets why I have stepped back but if she has to acknowledge my distance, then it would follow that she has to address why I am doing it. In the past I have expressed my concerns for her safety, well being and so on but she has become simply blank faced. If I can't be honest and she can't then there is no relationship.
If she wishes to flatly deny her reality, then thats up to her.
Nothing I can do, nor do I have the energy. Plenty going on on my doorstep.
Don't sweat it. Let her get on with it but there will be a reckoning because there is only so long reality can be held back.

[TheHusbandPost]

Sounds like she's projecting how she thinks the perfect life would be but is hiding a deep unhappiness.
Maybe she wants to come and stay to get advice or help?

[KimmySchmidt1]

Get off Instagram it’s clickbaity shite designed to make you feel insecure or annoyed. I don’t bother with it because the whole thing is poison.

[800msprint]

Does she live in north London per chance?