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Dd4, it's been nearly 3 years since I split with her father. He's been rubbish for contact, going months on end without seeing her. It's only the last Christmas he got her something for the first time. For the past three fortnights he's seen her for about an hour each time, this is as regular as he's ever managed.
He works odd hours when he does work but skips between jobs to avoid paying maintenance. He owes thousands to them/us now.
I'm 21 weeks pregnant with DC2 and happy with DP and proud of him for being such an amazing father like figure in DDs life, especially as her father has been so absent.
ExDP has now announced him and his GF are also expecting.
AIBU to think that an hour every two weeks isn't enough for DD and that once ExDP has a new baby DD will start to notice how she gets so much less from him?
I wish I could trust him to have her on his own but I do my best to back off and give them as much space as possible when we do meet.
It isn't possible for him to have her round his place-he lives in a house share with a few others who openly party and take drugs. He also failed to look after her properly when she was a baby and he had her for the first overnight stay.
Would it be unfair (AIBU) to give him another few months and then say he needs to be far more regular and present in her life or just back off completely? As I said previously he's finally started seeing her regularly but he also has a track record of just vanishing for 6+ months with no explanation.
Fully prepared to be told I need to suck it up and just let him make his own fuck ups but I want the best for DD and I don't want to see her getting hurt when it's all so predictable and preventable.
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Namechange467 · 16/03/2018 08:15
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