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Ladies man update****

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Comerainorshine1 · 11/03/2018 15:27

Hi, I posted on here a couple of days ago about my husband (we are separated) but supposedly trying again. Caught him out on a dating site that he said he no longer uses by acting as a girl interested in him. He asked for her number this morning so I lost the plot and told him it was me to shock him. My original plan was to say nothing and just back away but we spent the night together last night where he ran me a bath and told me how much he loved me!!!!! I didn’t sleep with him thank god! He left it s few hours after my outburst and came back with “ I knew it was you all along” I am fuming. Not sure what to say as a comeback......please help!!!

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PlasticWatch · 11/03/2018 15:28

I wouldn't bother with a comeback. Forget about him.

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marriednotdead · 11/03/2018 15:29

Goodbye is the only word and even that's optional.

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19lottie82 · 11/03/2018 15:29

Why do you need a comeback? You have now seen him for what he is. Use your common sense. How could you trust him again after this?

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WeirdCatLady · 11/03/2018 15:29

If you know he’s looking around why on earth did you spend the evening with him?

FFS stop doing the Pick Me Dance and move on.

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Deshasafraisy · 11/03/2018 15:29

Your comeback should be “goodbye”

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Fugitivefrombrusstice · 11/03/2018 15:30

End it now. He doesn't respect you and he won't be faithful. Don't worry about comebacks or point scoring - just tell him it's over, you aren't interested in trying to make it work and that you want him to leave. You deserve so much better than this OP Flowers

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happytobemrsg · 11/03/2018 15:31

Sorry but I agree with PPs. I wouldn't bother with a comeback. Just block all content and move on with your life.

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Comerainorshine1 · 11/03/2018 15:32

I know but he is so infuriating always trying to manipulate! How on earth could he think I would believe he knew it was me!! I’d have more respect for him if he admitted it but he is so self righteous I’m so angry. It’s definitly goidbye but he has to have the last word.

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Comerainorshine1 · 11/03/2018 15:32

I wish I could block him but we have children

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TheJoyOfSox · 11/03/2018 15:33

Two words, ending in off should be enough.

He’s playing you like a violin I’m afraid. He says he loves you, then goes on line dating, yeah. If he “knew” it was you, why did he chat from his OLD profile?

I think you’re best off making him history.

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RedDogsBeg · 11/03/2018 15:39

Speak and only interact with him in regard to the children, nothing else.

Stop allowing yourself to be manipulated, you know he's lying, stop tying yourself up in knots trying to outsmart him he's not worth it.

Say goodbye and mean it.

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CremeFresh · 11/03/2018 15:39

You don't need a comeback , unless you enjoy playing mind games. I'd only contact him regarding the children from now on.

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Backscratchesforever · 11/03/2018 15:40

Move on

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Frustratedboarder · 11/03/2018 15:44

Let the anger go - it's doing you way more harm than him! Let it all go and just laugh at him.. he's a sad and silly little man by the sound of it, addicted to flattery and the thrill of the chase; thank goodness you found out!

Laugh at him and move on! And mean it. If you have to message anything I'd just say "silly sod!! 🙄😁" And just refuse to engage in any further discussion - all his jibes will fall flat and take the wind out of his sails!

Oh, and have a large glass of 🍷! Grin

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Comerainorshine1 · 11/03/2018 15:46

Thank you x I am glad I’ve found out what he is really like. I can’t believe how convincing he is when we are together in regards to trying again. I’m pissed off I fell for it tbh. No more I’m moving on.

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Gemini69 · 11/03/2018 15:55

he's disgusting..... tell him to GTF

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WeAllHaveWings · 11/03/2018 15:57

The only comeback is "I would have respected you more if you had the balls to tell the truth, goodbye"

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birdladyfromhomealone · 11/03/2018 15:59

Why start a TAAT?
Just update your original post which has ONLY 54 replies.

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Gemini69 · 11/03/2018 16:00

and let's be honest... he didn't KNOW it was you.. he's a DICK

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daisychain01 · 11/03/2018 16:19

Why are you wasting your time, the minute you found he was still using dating sites, that's the trigger to say adios.

I wish I could block him but we have children

Be honest with yourself, it's just an excuse to say you have DC.

There are many ways of blocking someone from your life.

Starting with not allowing him anywhere near you, not letting him do anything for you, not texting or calling him or discussing anything other than practical arrangements to ensure your DC have the right level of access to their Father.

But not with you around during that access time, you're outa there. Emotionally disengaged and moving on big time.

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Takfujuimoto · 11/03/2018 16:37

He's not a Ladies man he's a disgusting opportunist who can't be faithful.
I don't know why you'd be bothered with a comeback, seriously out of all the things you should be worrying about a witty one up on him isn't a priority.
I'd be trying to figure out a way to separate properly, he will just keep doing this to you if you stay.

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Comerainorshine1 · 11/03/2018 16:37

Thank you daisychain01 you’re right. I’ve wanted far too much time listening to his rubbish. I have told him today that I’m not interested in listening to his shit and only to text re the kids. I’ve heard nothing since so hopefully he has got the message.

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Comerainorshine1 · 11/03/2018 16:38

*wasted

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Gemini69 · 11/03/2018 17:15

and have You got the message too OP..... his behaviour is screaming footloose and fancy free whilst reaping the benefits of home comforts of living with the Mother of my Children Flowers

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Comerainorshine1 · 11/03/2018 17:21

Gemini69 I most definitely feel determined to move on. It’s been a really bad two years for me and I just have to move forward.

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