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Tell me it's not too late

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chipvinegar Mon 12-Feb-18 15:07:14

33... recovering from abusive toxic marriage, met someone split up with them too before it ever really went anywhere.

I have fertility problems, severe anxiety and depression and tbh I'm deeply unhappy and want a chance at motherhood again (1DS)

It's still possible isn't it? Giving up already is premature?

GreenTulips Mon 12-Feb-18 15:11:45

Plenty of people have babies at 38/45 it's doable

But it sounds like you need time to be kind to yourself and work out what you want from a relationship.

Get stronger and know who you are and what you will or won't be subjected too.

Don't jump into a relationship because you want another baby

I'm not surprised you're anxious!

VladmirsPoutine Mon 12-Feb-18 15:16:29

33 isn't too late at all. That said, if you already know that you have fertility problems then you might find that you need to make some relatively quick decisions. I have known of people to meet marry and conceive within 1 year. I personally think that's far too soon but in some instances time is of the essence.

You still sound very raw and emotionally recovering so I'm loathe to tell you to get back out on the dating scene as what you don't need is another heart-break or someone using/abusing and abandoning you.
In your position - consider that you do already have one child and put yourself first in terms of healing. No-one knows how long this will take but I reckon you should put yourself back together first and then revisit it.

4teensandababy Mon 12-Feb-18 15:27:51

Definitely not too late. I had 4 children in my twenties, then a 12 year gap before having my DS when I was late 30's. Don't give up hope, but I'm a big believer in "you won't ever be truly happy in a relationship if you aren't happy in yourself".
Give yourself some time to heal, enjoy your DS, and love will find you when you're ready.

LloydColeandtheCoconuts Mon 12-Feb-18 16:15:15

I had first dc at 38 and second at 41.
You’ve got loads of time

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