Daily mail

[Knaffedoff]

Anyone else fearful of asking for advice in case in make the tabloids and outs you?

Or is just me?

[TheDailyMailIsADisgustingRag]

I’ve had threads removed from here before, at my request, when I realised they were potential DM fodder. So yanbu I think. If I post anything particularly outing, I will name change and / or make the details more vague in the op.

[Shadow666]

My life really isn’t that interesting.

I think it’s a good idea to change your name before you start a potentially interesting thread and also a good idea to change small details such as fudging ages and sexes of children slightly.

[Sparklingbrook]

Not really. It pays to be wary when you post on the internet.

Threads on here have been discussed by the DM and This Morning/Loose Women/The Wright Stuff. Once it's out there you can't get it back.

Even if a thread is deleted it may have been copied and already lifted.

[Shadow666]

Also, it’s really frustrating when you’ve been following a thread for a while then the OP asks to get it deleted as it may be outing so we can never know the resolution.

For example, if you start a thread about MIL hates the baby name we chose and refuses to use it, it should be pretty obvious beforehand that everyone will want to know the name so change your user name before you start the thread rather than refusing to say as it may be outing.

[Sparklingbrook]

I have noticed an increase in requests to have the thread deleted due to it being 'outing' when really it was just a controversial topic and the OP didn't like the replies they received...

[ForalltheSaints]

As I refer to the said paper as the paper that supported the Blackshirts in every response, there is little likelihood of me being quoted.

[TheDailyMailIsADisgustingRag]

@sparkling

I’ve seen that too.

[Sparklingbrook]

You put that every time you post Forallthesaints?

[TheDailyMailIsADisgustingRag]

@forallthesaints

I really hope you do that! Anyone who defends that rag needs to have a word with themselves imo.

[Sparklingbrook]

From what I have seen they just lift the whole thread, and just quote a few posts.

[hidingitall]

Shadow

Or you could just say ‘sorry, I’m not giving the name.’

Just because everyone wants to know it, doesn’t mean you have to give it!

[NewYearNewMe18]

This isn't an advice forum - its a whining forum to adjudicate on whether your behaviour/reactions are appropriate.

[hidingitall]

I’d never post for advice tbh.

All this forum elicits are people wanting to be unpleasant.

[SteamyBeignets]

Be aware as well MN is sometimes very reluctant to take off threads. I've had my request refused even though I've explained it is outing.

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

Sorry for the DM, and Thankfully I guess, but I live the most boring life ever. Where nothing remotely interesting ever happens.
If they did start writing about me they'd be more to be pitied, because they really would be scraping the bottom of the barrell

[Sparklingbrook]

Thing is MN isn't the only forum on the internet for advice is it?

[hidingitall]

I don’t think anyone is stating that it is but it has a certain slant or inclination about it.

For example, if I joined NMs and asked if I should have another baby, the advice would yes yes hun, go for it. Here, I feel I’d be more likely to get honest advice. But over the last twenty four months or so that’s vanished and I’d just be subject to carefully disguised personal attacks.

[Antigonads]

But even if you name change that only saves you from being outed on here surely. In the real world someone could read the mail and then realise it was you. The real life you.

One of my comments appeared in the mail. With a typo. The shame!!

[Sparklingbrook]

You can't expect random internet strangers to tell you whether to have another baby or not though.

They corrected my typo Antigonads.

[Antigonads]

They used a screenshot of my actual comment.

[Sparklingbrook]

Antigonads, they wrote mine and corrected it.

[hidingitall]

Best patient voice here.

No, I don’t expect random internet strangers to tell me to do anything, but I can discuss it, as one might with family and friends. Do you ever do that?

But sometimes, family and friends aren’t the best people to ask because they are either too involved, not available or it’s personal and you’d rather stay anonymous. Do we understand one another now?

[Sparklingbrook]

Bit early for all this hidingitall. But it totally depends on the subject matter.



lol at 'best patient voice'.

[hidingitall]

Sometimes, I do have to try very hard to be patient.

[Sparklingbrook]

Oh dear. Are you a teacher?