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Basta Wed 07-Feb-18 20:14:10

When is it reasonable to give up? I've had enough. I feel I have nothing worthwhile in my life. I have no sense of agency or authority. No-one treats me with respect. No-one is there for me. Every time I try to improve things it doesn't work and I end up feeling worse.

I don't want anything out of the ordinary. Just some self-respect and something to make me feel that life isn't completely pointless.

Cabininthewoods69 Wed 07-Feb-18 20:17:00

It's never ok to give up on yourself. Keep trying g and your time will come

beckieperk Wed 07-Feb-18 20:20:09

Who is disrespecting you? Family? Friends? Do you have anyone in rl you can talk to?

Basta Wed 07-Feb-18 20:25:13

Colleagues and friends, mainly. There's no-one I trust to tell how I feel.

Els1e Wed 07-Feb-18 23:27:31

First you have to respect yourself before others can. You have the right to be happy in life. Don’t give up please.

Cabininthewoods69 Thu 08-Feb-18 07:55:08

Could you change your job. I had to leave work because of my colleagues and management were very surprised when it came out. Now I'm in another job I got through volunteering and I love it. Everyone is lovely

Violletta Thu 08-Feb-18 08:05:01

where you work is very important to how you feel about yourself

if you're not happy with it for any reason (justified or not) whether you just don't like the people or the work, you deserve to find something else

you got this- you can do it flowers

beckieperk Thu 08-Feb-18 09:35:53

How are you feeling today basta?

Is there any way you can speak to your colleagues or manager to see if you can resolve the issue? Is your manager approachable?
Do you feel like you want to move jobs? The only issue with this might be that it won't solve any underlying issues with you or any health, problems you may have either mental or otherwise.

Basta Thu 08-Feb-18 21:20:43

Thanks for the replies.

I feel just the same today. My manager is the main problem. He has taken my favourite part of my role away to do himself, and I am a lot worse off financially as a result. He does not communicate, even things which I need to know in order to do my job properly.

Yes, I would like to change jobs, but I don't know how easy it will be to find another with similar pay. Not at all easy, I imagine.

Giddygardner Thu 08-Feb-18 21:55:48

I have watched and read and never before been brave enough to join in. But your post made me need to say something. About 8 years ago, I was in a terrible state, I had finished a long term relationship, lost a parent, in bad debt and was suffering with depression, I often asked out loud what the point was, I couldn't see a way out. Fast forward 4 years and I met my husband, moved jobs and cleared some debts. Big life changing things, but they all started small. Back then I never really thought I could possibly feel this happy. Life has been good, there are some negatives still, but they don't outweigh the good stuff, so I am happy. and I'm sure it will change again at some point, but I am a firm believer that making it what you want starts small and the rest snowballs. Smile at a stranger, give a meaningful compliment, aim for a reachable target, celebrate those small wins, start to make the those small tasks as successful as you can, record your successes and note them on your CV. So even if the big things like changing jobs seem insurmountable right now, start to build up the small steps and you will soon get there. All the very best.

beckieperk Fri 09-Feb-18 03:13:18

Nice reply Giddy. Great advice.
Sorry you aren't feeling any better Basta.
Please try and talk to someone and if the only way to help is to change jobs then start looking, prepare your cv etc. Even these tasks may make you feel more empowered??

LeslieKnopefan Fri 09-Feb-18 03:18:46

Think about going to your GP if you have no one else to talk to.

You can ususally self refer for CBT. Might give you some coping mechanisms whilst you look for another job!

gowernotthegower Fri 09-Feb-18 04:54:19

Maybe you can’t earn as much, but if you can earn enough to live on and be happier then an option exists. What price do you put on your happiness?

LeslieKnopefan Sat 10-Feb-18 00:03:19

Yes I have to stop comparing myself to my siblings which is easier said than done really.

My parents have just offered to take me on holiday to get away for a bit and for some reason I just feel guilty. I don’t know they don’t mind, infact we enjoy going on holiday together in the past but I just feel that they are having to basically look after me.

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