I've been in a long term relationship for the past 10 years that broke up recently.
I'm pretty anxious about eventually meeting someone new.. I mean you only have to read some of the threads on here to see there are some right horrible men around.
My ex was quite highly sexed, always wanted it more than I did. There were many times I felt pressured and just went along with things to get it out the way, which makes me feel a bit sad. I think he watched a lot of porn when I wasn't around.. which influenced him a lot(wanted anal, 3somes, pornified stuff etc), then occasionally wanted me to watch it with him which isn't really my thing.
He cheated on me by sexting other women many times over the years.
The point I'm getting at I suppose is if I do start dating soon, am I going to keep encountering these problems? Am i going to get guys asking for pics, sending dick pics etc. I just feel like I'm in a weird position never dated before at 32, as my ex was my only relationship.
I hated feeling like someone else had demands on my body. I enjoy sex and think it's part of a healthy relationship.. but in my last relationship I sometimes just felt like.. it's hard to put into words, he was affectionate and loving towards me yet sometimes I just felt like a piece of meat :(
I just want to meet someone respectful towards women in general. I don't think my ex would have any moral issues with having sex with a prostitute for example.
My best friends partner can also be horrible, emotionally abuses her and also sexts other women. It's so depressing.
AIBU to feel like it will be difficult to find someone without pornified expectations of sex, who actually respects women?
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worrier32 · 22/01/2018 16:12
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