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callkiki Tue 05-Dec-17 20:16:36

70 year old neighbor has custody of her 2 grandchildren 8 & 10. Always got on until recently as someone called children's protection and reported her and just found out she thought it was me.

I would have if I had known but was too wrapped up in my own problems.

I just got letter from her where she admitted that someone reported her for locking her 10 year old grandaughter and her 10 year old friend into a caravan on the front of her property all alone all night long a few weeks back. She goes on to call who ever reported her cowardly and that Children's protection have put on her file to ignore all reports of abuse....as if.

In her letter she states children's protection came by and she admitted she was locking them in but the 10 year has a phone to call her in the middle of the night if she needs her. Mind you, the house is locked, 10 year old isn't allowed a key to house and 70 year old granny sleeping upstairs.

The caravan doesn't have heat or running water but does have a supposedly disabled gas stove. Not sure if it has a toilet, it's very small and on the front garden right next to the street.

Apparently someone heard the children being yelled at or were yelling for her at night which caused her to be reported.

Now I'm in possession of a hand signed note from her stating she is locking not only her 10 year old grandaughter in but a 10 year old school mate as well for sleep overs and that there is nothing wrong with it.

Not sure what to do as I've since moved but can't help but worry about if something happened in the middle of the night.

How would you feel if you found out your 10 year old was in this situation and am I wrong in thinking this isn't ok?

SugarPlumLairy Tue 05-Dec-17 20:21:00

I'd have sent a copy of the letter to CPS and ask them to add to file as you were concerned. Locking kids up anywhere sounds like a terrible idea, anyone could break in or out. Poor kids.

BunsOfAnarchy Tue 05-Dec-17 22:29:10

What the actual fck. I'm speechless. I can't even begin to understand anyone who would do this as a joke let alone for real and repeatedly?! Why cant they stay in the house?! Report this!

FluffyFerrets Tue 05-Dec-17 22:52:54

Ring CPS and report it. WTF is the GM thinking.

DesignedForLife Tue 05-Dec-17 23:17:23

Report. If a fire broke out she'd be clueless and they'd be trapped. Aside from so many other things.

BastardGoDarkly Tue 05-Dec-17 23:24:32

Yes, call ss, see what they say.

I'd feel a duty to tell someone, that's all you can do.

CoffeeBreakIn5 Tue 05-Dec-17 23:35:17

Please, please tell SS, the police - anyone. That is so dangerous, those poor children.

callkiki Tue 05-Dec-17 23:37:12

I just received this letter yesterday and was speechless. She turned really nasty and I didn't know why and had to even call the police on her. She has really lost the plot but obviously children's protective have been out but don't know if she admitted to them as she states but will ring and see if I can forward the letter on to them as she has signed it with her admission.

Fuckit2017 Tue 05-Dec-17 23:49:35

I'm confused you said you just got a letter from her. But near the end of your post said you have since moved?

It seems odd to put it all on writing and send it to someone. Unless she wants to get found out? And she also risks the friend telling her parents. That they have been staying in a caravan.

Also if she has custody of them I guess maybe she worked with social services at some point? And I would have thought she would know a little about the system. Such as they have to look at every report and chase it up even if it's not true.

There is something not right

iggleypiggly Wed 06-Dec-17 00:00:49

You’ve moved or not? How did you get letter? To new address?

callkiki Wed 06-Dec-17 13:42:21

I moved but the letter was forwarded to my new address. She obviously sent it after I moved but it just caught up with me as my new house wasn't available to move into for 3 weeks so I had to stay with friends and didn't pay for the additional change of address to my friends home, just my new house.

callkiki Wed 06-Dec-17 13:46:03

The letter also goes on and on and on about every thing under the planet such as someone in the past had called RSPCA her for kicking her dog and now has decided that I'm the guilty party of calling all the agencies on her. I was too busy with an unexpected divorce to be bothered with her and she took the time to call me out in writing for all my supposed past bad deeds. I wouldn't have known anything about it unless she sent the letter and had no idea Children's services or even the RSPCA had been called. I'm not surprised about the dog as I'm sure the dog's name is "shut up you f**king dog" but the kids always seem well treated to me.

FizzyGreenWater Wed 06-Dec-17 13:48:11

WTF?

PLEASE take that letter to social services.

She absolutely should not have care of them.

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