I have no one to really get an honest opinion So I’m hoping someone can help me see a bit more clearly
From the beginning
I got married much to my parents upset who then made the whole process of planning wedding awful, i was told they wouldn’t come and things I’d brought my mum for wedding a rather expensive outfit thrown back literally at Me a few days pre big day
No wedding present from them, they refused to pay for the wedding cake at 11th hour even though they had said they would because I couldn’t get a tasting, it was made by an old lady as a favour.
My mum never came to my hen which I organised myself and was constantly trying to interfere in my relationship with my husband playing mind games
Until eventually I think she just gave up because she knew it wasn’t working
All this made me very ill
The whole wedding i look back in sadness, me and my hubby have not even watched our wedding dvd because it makes us feel so sad
I was told whilst on honeymoon to collect my wedding presents which I’d had delivered to my parents whilst on honeymoon to either collect them or they throw them out
Fast forward a number years and my sister is getting married and things couldn’t be any different
My mum is organising her hen do
My mum just talks about the wedding constantly and even said because I didn’t come to your hen do I’m booking a fancy car for ur sisters hen do to take us to and from location because I thought that be nice?
Like somehow that just makes it ok
She has stumped up money left right and centre helping my sister and this is causing bad feeling between me and my sister because also she treats them so badly but gets treated like a princess by them and yet I just accept I’m the good daughter Who gets dumped on and something in me has just snapped I can’t do this
I actually cant continue with this whole facade
It’s eating away at me causing me to just feel depressed and sad
I’ve accepted that if I don’t go I can kiss goodbye to my family but I actually don’t care anymore
It all feels toxic
I’m just incredibly sad
I don’t hate my family I just can’t lie about how I feel and I do feel angry
My sister Never made any effort with my wedding either and is constantly telling my parents that they prefer me I guess so they say of course not! Just ridiculous behaviour and my mum told me that she is jealous of me
She has no reason to be believe me
So our relationship is not great as I’m sick of her negativity
Someone pls advice
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Mummy19802b · 10/11/2017 16:25
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