So angry with immoral nasty dirty EX SIL

[Plentyapollo]

Ex (9 years ago) SIL encourages her 20 year old son to be physically and verbally spiteful to his step brother with autism & my son without. Calls them retards is purposefully hurting them by 'accident'.
She this week has followed my 81 year old MIL around the local town begging her for money and not paid it back... this is the third time this has happened in three weeks!!!
She still owes us £510, she has been evicted from her rented house after the landlord whom she was having sex with for years has now caught her shagging both of his married brothers... the best of this is that the landlord and his brothers have a sister that is married to her brother... I couldn't make this up.
Her son has stolen from my house my dh feels sorry for him as he hasnt had the most stable of upbringings!!! She left My BIL when son was 5 to run off with landlord thinking he would leave his wife for her.
After my 13 ds complained that they called him a spoilt little bastard and he violently twisted his fingers causing bruising last visit... I have banned them from our home.
Want to do something rash about her taking advantage of my lovely MILs vulnerability...I'm so angry

[MistyMinge]

Do you need to have anything to do with them? I'd cut her and her son out of my life.

[BatteredBreadedOrSouthernFried]

It’s Jeremy Kyle you’re after.

[Plentyapollo]

Can & have cut her out... would like to cut her off at the knees but her parasitic attention has just turned towards my MIL.
Would love to have the courage to intimidate her family in the way she's doing to MIL and tell them what her spiteful jealous son is doing to my 9 year old nephew. Her brother and mother are Church deacons!!!

[rollingonariver]

Cut them out. There’s no reason to have any of them in your life.
Tell her that next time she bothers your mother you will phone the police.

[RedBullBlood]

The op's MIL must be the SIL's mother, then, right?

[Plentyapollo]

All family including my husband have walked on eggshells around her for years firstly because she would with hold her son from seeing his dad if anyone dared speak up to her and now because she has no shame... she has been known to scream and ball anyone out anywhere she pleases... I just want to permanently shut her and her son up, and out them public all for the way they have behaved AND for even daring to put his hands on my son

[Plentyapollo]

No the ops MIL is the ex SIL ex MIL!!!

[RedBullBlood]

I have form for not understanding in laws'!
If the woman is op's SIL, then SIL must be op's brother's wife, or op's husband's sister?
So op's MIL is either her brother's mother (which of course makes her the op's Mum) or SIL's mum?
Help me.

[RedBullBlood]

Jeez, I even typed it out wrong. Ignore me, please.

[Kissmycousinkate]

Husbands brother was married to ex sill and mil is husbands and Bil mom.....I think

[Coastalcommand]

What's the AIBU here?

[Sashkin]

Redbull, it’s her husband's brother’s ex-wife.

Two brothers. Both married. This is one wife talking about the other brother’s ex-wife.

[overnightangel]

Jeremy Kyle of if you’ve any sense , if there’s been stealing, go to the police

[RedBullBlood]

Got it.
I think it's because I don't think of my BIL's wife (my husband's brother's wife!) as my SIL. She's just my BIL's wife.

[Jux]

Can you report her for something? Hurting your son, harrassing mil, child cruelty to your nephew?

[ohtheholidays]

I'd be reporting her and her son to the Police for the abuse of the children and for what they've been calling a child that is disabled sick bastards the pair of them.

Please report them to SS as well for the sake of the child they're abusing!

[AcrossthePond55]

If this is your husband's brother's ex-wife, then the MiL in question is also your MiL? You do refer to her in your OP as 'my' MiL.

So what are your husband and brother doing to defend their mother?

[QueenFlippyNips]

Oh christ on a bike that sounds horrendous Plentyapollo, i totally know how you feel thought! I have a crazy toxic cousin who's been caught on cctv shagging in a shop carpark on a night out (see? All families are a bit bonkers ) and is generally not a great person.

I'm trying to cut her out of my life now but my dm is still in contact with her partly because she had a tough childhood and so my dm feels sorry for her, people like these rely on people's pity. I wish my dm would consider going nc too, but she won't, so I just clearly explained why I don't want anything more to do with this cousin and asked my mum not to bring her up around me etc. Like yourself, I really don't want anyone bringing unnecessary drama into my life so the best thing to do is totally detach and disengage yourself from that person, remember that they're nothing to you so anymore and nothing can't hurt or annoy you!

Goodluck!

[Plentyapollo]

husband and brother in law... not giving them the choice to bury their heads this time... to be fair the son/nephew is sly beyond belief and up until now the hurt and name calling inflicted has always been accepted as 'in fun and accidental' both had their eyes opened to son/nephew and as for EX SIL my husband is never around her for 9 years. We found out she was being evicted when they had no where to live and asked if they could rent out our flat short term... she turned it into a blood y knocking shop with the brothers coming and going at all times of day and night...then a fight broke out when one arrived as another leaving and one of the wives found out!!! police called and dh asked her to leave... 14 weeks no rent. As I said before you couldn't write this

[Plentyapollo]

You couldn't make it up is what I meant to say... and the AIBU is ....to want her exposed publically for her actions

[abbsisspartacus]

You have named them in your post

[twattymctwatterson]

Slut?

[Plentyapollo]

Does that matter????... no one will know them from that will they??? Don't know how to take the names off...seemed confusing to keep saying sil etc