We have a 8 month old dc.
Naturally, nights out together don’t happen often.
We have friends who are a couple who live in another city. Dh days he’s going to visit them for a weekend in dec - meaning I’ll stay and look after dc. Fine, I agree.
Dh then suggests we go out xmas shopping with drinks the weekend before he goes out. Just us. Again, fine. Not particularly bothered.
I then suggest rather the drinks and Christmas shopping, I accompany him to see friends in another city and scrap the Christmas drinks - our dc will only be away one night and well - these people are my friends too - it would be nice to see them and go out. Dh is incredibly taken aback and says ‘Oh well, we’re going to this event and you won’t like the music’ and I was a little then he drops in that his best friend is going too. A little detail he had neglected to mention before. A friend that despite everything I’m pretty sure doesn’t like me.
So I just say ok. It’s been made perfectly clear he doesn’t want me to come. I’m not going to force my presence on him or our friends.
I now feel sad and left out - but also irritated that the ‘Christmas drinks’ were not suggested because he wanted to go out and spend time with me. But rather to placate (is that the right word?) me, by saying ‘you’ve been out too!’ If I was to push the not going to see our friends issue.
I don’t know - am I being to sensitive?
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To feel a bit put out/ pushed out by dh?
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karmacoma1 · 04/11/2017 00:02
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