i want to ask the great collective MN wisdom their opinion on how to split household divisions/tasks. i currently feel i bring the majority to the table and am getting a bit sick of it, but want to know AIBU?
i earn slightly more than my husband for a shorter week. Both full time, but mine generally 45 hours and his 65. We both have 'careers' that took a lot of training for - but i hate my job, he loves his. I chose mine early on to enable his career, as out of my speciality it would fit in the best with his training. He "followed his dream" and loves his job. Both very demanding in different ways. Everyday i feel stressed and drained, but our life seems to centre around him. (live where he needs to, far from family, for his job meaning a long commute for him. I have no friends as we moved so much for his job, haven't had the chance to make any. He knows lots of people who he works with, these are our only social circle.)
in terms of 'running the household' i do it all. mainly in the hours before he comes home and will have dinner waiting etc. But this means i am routinely behind on work. I have to come home to sort DC/dog etc and so then cannot finish my work, i don't have the option to stay. He stays til he is done as he knows i am there. when asked to switch, he says he can't. Its just a completely different mindset. The weekends we both do chores.
but i am beginning to question, what is he bringing?
if the wages are equal would you split 50/50 chores? or is the person that does less hours supposed to do more?
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vinobell · 03/11/2017 20:32
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