My DHs mother ran away with another man when he was a child, leaving DH and brothers with their father. As an adult, DH found and made contact with her. They have never had a close relationship since, although they have maintained some regular contact, largely for the sake of him building ties with the half-sibling which she had produced since disappearing. I have always got on with her ok, I don’t have a particularly high opinion of her and the way she has behaved and tried to justify it, but I let him take the lead and am proud of him for forgiving her. I have never heard her side of the story from her own mouth, although find it hard to believe there’s any decent excuse for the way she has acted.
All was fine until our wedding, which she was invited to but for various reasons she took offence at. DH had a conversation with her about it and thought all was resolved. We next arranged to meet her at another family members house, only to turn up to be told by them that she wasn’t coming. She never contacted us directly to explain or apologise or arrange another time, in fact has not been in touch at all since.
DH isn’t interested in making the first move (again) and I think that is fair enough. My Q is what we should do re. Christmas. We will certainly send a card/present to his half-sibling, but should we do the same for his mother? AIBU to carry on as if nothing has happened? Or AIBU to not send anything and make a statement in that way?
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breadisbadforducks · 31/10/2017 11:02
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