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To not really have any proper girl friends anymore?

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LotsofFireworksTonight Fri 20-Oct-17 20:40:11

I've had good friends through school and uni etc and still stay in touch, although we live in different places now and I must admit I feel like it's often me driving arrangements for the two groups to meet up etc. I haven't always and we've all always been a bit relaxed and disorganised so I can see why we perhaps aren't as close anymore.

Working in a management position I am a bit isolated at work in that I can't really be too matey with anyone in particular there, and there aren't other managers.

I've also had lots of friends at local clubs and things but I've moved since and all were more of a group thing than really close.

Although I'm a probably a fairly private person and not the most amazing social butterfly I am quite friendly and easygoing so I don't think I'm friend repellant and to be honest I don't mind too much as have DH and family and baby on the way, so meeting up with friends a couple of times a year works - but most people I know have close/"best friends" and I feel a bit odd/embarrassed when I think about it?

It might be a bit to do with the fact that they are all single and still in London and out quite a lot, whereas I'm out in the sticks and married

Anyone else been in same boat?

NC as a bit embarrassed!

frenchknitting Fri 20-Oct-17 21:06:32

I've went through phases like this. However, having a baby made a massive difference. I found so many opportunities to meet people, and they were often in the same position. My social life has changed a lot.

Aquamarine1029 Fri 20-Oct-17 21:12:13

I haven't had any proper girl friends for 24 years and I'm very happy. This is nothing to be embarrassed about.

Bodicea Fri 20-Oct-17 21:22:27

If you are having a baby it’s a perfect opportunity to make new friends.
Join a Nct course/ antenatal yoga class/ aquanatal and be proactive in swapping numbers etc with other mums. Nct tends to be full of people looking to make friends.
You can support each other in the run up to and after the birth of your baby. Then you end up going to baby massage and other daft classes as well as getting coffe together after. If you don’t click with people on the Pre baby courses there are more opportunities in these baby classes too and then as they get bigger toddler groups.
You just have to be really proactive about it.
I’ve made so many new friends since having my kids and some have petered out, become acquaintances but a lot I now see as proper mates.

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