I have an old school friend who I like to meet up with when we're free and we're both in our early 20s. Recently every time we make plans she brings along either her niece 11 or nephew 5 and it's becoming annoying now.
We're supposed to be doing something next week and She's just sent me a message saying 'can niece come? She really wants to come with us.' I really don't want to go if we're going to have a child with us all day. It's not that I don't like the niece or nephew but when I make plans with an adult friend with no children I don't expect to be looking after children all day, and they're coming along with us every time now.
Would I be unreasonable if I reply saying no? And how do I say this in a nice way?
Text back saying I was hoping for just a lovely adults only day. Is she providing childcare? In which case, she'll find it hard to come without the child. Do you have to meet up at weekends? Can't you arrange it for when the children are in school?
I feel your pain, friends of ours want to bring their children every time we meet up. I'd quite like an adult only meet up!
No she's not providing childcare, if anyone does its normally her parents (children's grandparents.) We do normally have to meet on the weekends as my friend is a TA so is only off on weekends, we were going to meet on a weekday next week but that's half term so the children are off school.