(Sorry, this is long - NC'd for this one)
My son is 7 years old and is being bullied by a child at school (also 7 years old). The child also bullies lots of others but my son seems to get the worst of it. Parents won't allow their children out playing on the street when he is out as he's threatened to kill them and has hurt them.
Earlier this year (before summer holidays) this child hit my son in the stomach and face with a rock. The school were aware and the child was told off and missed a lunch break. I also told the childs mother as we are/were friends and she was upset and told him off and things were better for a while.
Last week this child slammed my son into a wall on the first occasion. Then on another occasion slammed my son into a wall, my son fell to the floor (he says because he was so hurt) at this point the other boy kicked my son in the stomach and then the face!
I went to the school and the teachers were aware of it and said they'd keep him in all his playtimes next week (meaning this week). I asked what would happen the next time this happens and what they have planned for future problems as obviously this is ongoing and now my son no longer wants to go to school over it all. They said next time they'll inform the head teacher. I decided it wasn't good enough and contacted the head teacher myself, he was horrified and has arranged a meeting for next week (he's away this week) but has said that this week my son would be safe at school due to the other child not being allowed his break times.
Again I told the boys mum what had happened, largely because we're friends and I didn't want her to feel that I'd gone behind her back in speaking with the head teacher. Also because he son has anger issues and she's trying to get him help, I felt she needed to know about these things as it may help her when trying to get help if that makes sense? I was so nice to her about everything, I said I understand how difficult it is for her too and that I didn't think us falling out would be helpful for the boys. Her reaction could not be further from her reaction the first time around, she was insisting her child would not be missing his break times - I told her if she has a problem with that then by all means contact the school and not me, she didn't apologise nor did she ask how my son was. She just kept reiterating that her son would not be missing break times and that she would keep him off school if that were the case so he wouldn't have to She also said her child said he had only pushed my son (her son had told me himself he'd done it at pick up time on the day it happened which I told her) I told her I was shocked by her reaction and didn't feel we could continue our friendship.
Later that day her son and her husband came to the house to apologise. I asked her son what he was apologising for - for kicking my son in the face or for pushing him (which is what he'd told his mum he'd done), he admitted kicking him in the face. His mum later messaged apologising for her reaction and everything and said they'd taken the decision to home school him - I very much doubted she would do this but whatever. Yesterday her son was off school so I kind of thought perhaps she would be home schooling. Yet today her son was back at school.
Now I'm wondering if she kept him off yesterday to get hold of the school to see if he would be missing his break times ... and if the school have in fact backed down over the punishment. If this is the case then ideally I'd like to keep my son off school until I can have the meeting with the head teacher next week as they've gone back on what they have told me was in place to at least keep my son safe this week. Would I be unreasonable to do so?
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MissTeri · 17/10/2017 11:52
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