My mum seems continually put out that I don't get very excited to see her, and don't dance attendance on my sister who is her favourite.
Dsis is an anxious type who demands a lot of care and special treatment... E.g. due with her first over Xmas and my mum is to fly in to mine (I live closer to sister) and stay with me until my sister summons mum / needs her help. It's considered totally fine to assume Bees will keep Mum entertained for up to 4 weeks while she waits. Much tutting about how I will be in work most of the time as it's a busy time for us. Why can't I take leave etc.
I'm not invited until a really awkward week in Jan that clashes with school timings and it's a HUGE subject of disapproving gossip that I don't pull DC out from school and go to act as mother's help for DSis...
My family has also been begging me to go to a family reunion next year. I keep saying no and they keep being massively upset about it.
But the thing is... These people REALLY obviously don't like me. They disapprove of me. They are bored by the things I'm interested in. They roll their eyes at me. They think I'm properly awful for so many reasons.
So why do they get so upset when I don't want to spend time with them?
For years and years I tried to make family contact fun, would plan things, would make conversation and my mum and sis would inevitably be miserable about it and it would be soul crushing. So now I just smile nod and keep it all very light, take as much time as I can away from them if a visit is mandatory etc. And this too stimulates more family tittering about how checked out and unloving I am.
Aibu not to want to invest any more in these people than I have to?
Occasionally a friend will say " oh well you know but they're family" and I just think... But they literally don't even like me though
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To not really want to be around my family ever?
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beesandknees · 07/10/2017 20:41
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