To be pissed off with son's dad for constant lateness

[roastandyorkies]

I am so annoyed right now. DS dad and I have been separated for ages. He's 8 (DS that is not his dad although he behaves like that sometimes).

We have a regular weekly schedule of who picks DS up and when. Usually I collect him from his after school club on a Friday but yesterday his dad did it because there was an event they wanted to go to together. He was late. On a Friday so the staff had to stay. And I will get "fined". Fair enough I understand the fine from their point my frustration is with ex oh.

This morning DS has his swimming lesson. There's another event going on nearby in the city centre. Email sent by pool warning is of this and saying allow extra time. He didn't, got stuck in traffic and they've now gone home and missed the lesson that I pay for.

Ex pays no maintenance. Doesn't have a proper job and is good at fiddling so I'd get fuck all at best. But that's now a late collection fine and a missed swimming lesson in under 24 hours that he's "cost" me 😤

[ShowMePotatoSalad]

*DS that is not his dad although he behaves like that sometimes

I'm confused - just to clarify is the ex you are referring to his biological dad?

[Wellonlyifihavetoo]

Think she means her ds is 8 not her ex!

[KungFuPandaWorksOut16]

She means the child is 8 not the dad showme

[roastandyorkies]

Yes sorry there probably should have been a comma there - was typing in fury. Ex is DS dad

[ShowMePotatoSalad]

Lol sorry I'm a complete doughnut.

YANBU and he should be the fine as it was his fault.

[ShowMePotatoSalad]

Pay* the fine, sorry.

I don't know whats wrong with me today...

[melj1213]

I would be passing the fines on to your Ex to pay - If he refuses then I'd be telling him that in future he can't take DS at those times, especially considering he doesn't contribute any kind of maintenance. If he can't guarantee he will pick your DS up in time to avoid fines/can get him to classes on time to avoid missing paid for sessions then he can't be allowed to have him at those times.

[Jammydodger81]

I stopped ExH from collecting our youngest from childcare as he either forgot, was late or cancelled so late that it was really difficult for me to arrange someone else to collect her. He only did it twice a week and six weeks running he either missed a day or was late, costing me money. It's a real shame as he sees less of the dc because of it but it was making her so anxious