To ask for a handhold please

[JaceLancs]

Just waiting for a phone call to hear how my Dad is
He is 91 with quite a few health problems and was bluelighted into hospital tonight after a tummy bug has caused a problem with fairly recent heart surgery
DB and SIL are there supporting DM who has early stages dementia so he's not alone - just feel so helpless
I could get there tomorrow but just feeling very alone tonight

[TeddyBoy14]

More than happy to hold your hand.

Have you got anyone with YOU, to lean on for support, or to just make you a cup of tea whilst you wait to hear of news? I really hope you do. Not nice to think you may be waiting anxiously alone.

Hear if you want to chat or just offload and I shall be willing your Dad to pull through xx

[BlueSuffragette]

So sorry sometimes you really feel helpless. Hope your dad is ok. Good to hear your mum has support. Just try and be positive and remember all the lovely times you've had with your dad and send him positive vibes. Sending you my best wishes and of course to your dad too.

[JaceLancs]

Thank you TeddyBoy - DS 24 is here - although he has gone to bed - no point in us both being wrecked for work in morning
I won't go in to work unless I hear that he's stable and will get away as early as I can to go n visit
DD keeps messaging me and is coming over first thing to offer tlc

[JaceLancs]

Thank you BlueS obviously I'm biased but he is a very special gentleman who is also a very gentle man and is my greatest role model

[TeddyBoy14]

So glad you've got your son there too. If you don't feel up to going into work tomorrow (and who'd blame you?) are you able to call in sick?

It's an immensely worrying time for you and I'm sure they'll understand 😘.

I just think that that pressure of "got to be up in x amount of hours to go to work" is probably one you could do without right now.

That's wonderful your daughter will be over in the morning.

In the meantime, try (if you can) to get some rest, you must be feeling drained with the worry xx.

[Xmasfairy86]

Oh jace that sucks. Don’t know how long I’ll last but I’m here to listen!

[Ladybirdbookworm]

Just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you - try and have a lie down even if you can't sleep

[LoyaltyAndLobster]

He will be ok OP he is in good hands, try and get some sleep he wouldn’t want you to be awake worrying.

[JaceLancs]

Thank you everyone - I dozed off in front of tv - no news is just well no news really.....
Which I'm actually taking as a good sign - DB has said he will message me so I'm going to bed with phone on pillow - hopefully I will see Dad tomorrow and let DB grab some rest
I will go to work if possible as I hate letting people down and am booked to do something tomorrow for work including train tickets paid for etc
Thanks again the handhold was lovely

[JaceLancs]

Just to update Dad is doing ok - had X-rays and bloods done etc - improved enough to be discharged home first thing this morning with an urgent referral to his heart specialist at a neighbouring hospital
I'm hoping to visit later but wary because I've started with a dreadful sniffle this morning so will telephone first and see what DM thinks - won't go if I think I may risk passing it on

[LoyaltyAndLobster]

Morning OP so happy to hear he is ok, I knew he would be

[TeddyBoy14]

Oh that is really the best news, it's made my morning.

Urgent heart referrals are usually really quick (I was referred urgently and seen within the week) so that's encouraging.

Can't tell you how delighted I am that he's being discharged.

He sounds like a strong and wonderful Gentleman. You must be very proud of him.

Still thinking of you and please do update us xxx.

[DO3271]

Pleased to hear your Dad is doing OK. Hopefully he keeps improving and you keep getting positive news x

[JaceLancs]

Thank you will update later as I hear anything x

[TeddyBoy14]

Any news JaceLancs? Hope all continues to be well and everything went smoothly with your Dad's discharge xx

[JaceLancs]

All well so far
Dad has spent the day at home resting
Sadly DM is a tad confused but am hopeful that she is coping n keeping him hydrated
I can't visit due to cold etc but will call them again tomorrow n monitor situation
I've asked DM to ring consultant Heart specialist secretary to expedite referral as don't want it to get lost in our lovely NHS

[TeddyBoy14]

Is there anyone who can help them out a bit? If your DM is a tad confused herself, I'd be worried about her ability to look after your DF and, as you say, keep him hydrated, or chase up cardiac consultant appointments.

Just worried she might not be able to cope that well and the situation might have added to the stress/agitation.

Still keeping you all in my thoughts xx.