My mother is a flaker
I'm perfectly prepared to get heat for this but I need to rant before I throw my entire suitcase out the top window.
So I'm moving out from home! ( now bearing in mind I lived on my own from 18-24 and have only come for 6 months to gather my bearings before the move in with my long term boyfriend).
My parents kindly offered me to stay at there's while this Happened and in return I cleaned up there house pretty much everyday and this wasn't just quickly do the dishes it was everything you can imagine.
Did I mind doing it? No.
Why? Because I'm one of those sad arseholes that finds cleaning therapeutic etc.
So fast forward six months of cleaning the house, doing errands for them, showing them stuff on social media, fixing the internet and looking after there house for them for two weeks while they went on holiday.
So a couple of weeks ago I asked my mother if she could kindly help me move my suitcases ( I don't drive and never will due to being quite uneasy on the road) and she said yes.
This is before her going on holiday, this is roughly four days after she's come back from her holiday so she is back in "work" mode etc.
Now back story on our relationship, moved out as a teen and pretty much was self sufficient for a lot of it, had a steady job and worked in the field I went to school for.
So all in all my life hasn't been hard however, she has mostly picked men over myself my entire life going from boyfriend to husband to husband ( affairs) and it genuinely does hurt me sometimes as it feels like she doesn't want to spend any time with me.
If I have ever brought this up she gets super defensive, to which I understand and advise I'm not attacking her for it I would just like us to be closer to which her response is that we are not friends.
-shrugs-
So today is the day of the move, I got up at 5am to finish packing, she leaves for work and then sends me a message asking if I could move a little earlier today.
So I said yes that's fine I'll be finished packing etc
Then she changes it again asking to do it in two weeks!
To which I'm kind of confused and annoyed, we have things arriving at the flat today, stuff needing to be sorted, and I did ask her this well in advance.
I said that we can't really because of other commitments ( following weeks are busy with my work, moving stuff, etc) and I just say that I would use the local taxi service
( £35 round trip to the flat)
It just struck me as very rude to not say anything while she was in the house with me but as soon as she was far away just drop me a message rather factly so as if i wasn't worth her face time.
Mumsnetters : I understand that mums have lives of there own but I will never understand how if your child complains about how your treating them, your child is always the bad person and is ungrateful.
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Blankuser1992 · 26/09/2017 09:40
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