Not really posted much before. Have two DC with children's father been with him for 5 years. Kids are almost 4 and 1. Relationship has been difficult at times. Both struggled with depression and my partner won't get himself additional support for that via the doctors or by talking to his own (albeit useless) family. Even though I've gone and got him registration forms for the doctors and filled them out myself 3 times, so he could go and access psychological support for the depression/general negative way he sees life with.
Anyway sorry I'm babbling.
I've got up and I don't know what possessed me to look through his phone but I did.
I have done this before and it's always been the same, Facebook messages to various women over the space of the past few months. We are talking April until now. What's ap messages. Bloody Snapchat. That's a new one, can't see any messages on that one but can see he has lots of women on the contact lists?
These Facebook and what's ap messages are mostly along the lines of "hey sexy" "how are you" etc etc and then him complimenting them in various ways and exaggerating any good points about his life to them. Eg. His job is fantastic, life is fantastic. Fucking news to me! Everything's shit when he's talking to me!
He told one woman that he had a dream about her and woke up hard! I'm livid- slimy bastard!
And one woman it looks as though he may have collected her from her house from how the messages have gone. I've tried to correlate the date and remember if he was out that day but because it's a far back as April I can't remember.
He's done this before. No instances of cheating I've ever been able to prove apart from him getting a blow job in our house a few years ago.
Would you put up with anymore?
If I am to end it. How do I end it while creating the smallest upheaval for the kids. I'm so worried about our almost 4 year old. He loves his dad and honestly as well I'm worried how I'll cope without his little bit of piss poor help he can offer at times.
I'm worried where he will go and how often the kids will get to see their dad or stay with him. He will have no where to live apart from on his mum's sofa as he has no savings and all his money at the moment goes on our rent and his car.
Someone please help me and sorry for any typos or rambling.
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aliceinwonderlandbrum · 20/09/2017 05:55
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