I probably ABU, but I just feel a bit fed up now and I want to know if I should just keep my mouth shut about it and stop being grumpy, or if my feelings are rational.
Bit of back story: I have been in a long term relationship with my OH. Met at uni, were together for 4 years then had a break. Got back together again 2 years later and have now been back together for 3 years. We're in our late 20s. He moved to London after uni (partly why we broke up). I moved down 2 years ago to be with him (made more sense for me to move because of the job I do). We have lived together for the past 2 years and bought a flat about 6 months ago. He's got a very large group of friends here, all from different walks of his life. I have a handful of friends that I've made myself, and some mutual friends of ours from uni. OH plays A LOT of golf, pretty much every other weekend, and it's not just an hour or two, golf takes up most of the day. Sometimes he's away for the entire weekend playing golf. He also goes out quite a lot in week after work for drinks, not getting home until 10/11pm, meaning I usually stay in and cook for myself. The last few weeks, he has been out weds, Thurs and Fri and then played golf on one of the weekend days.
I'm just starting to get a bit fed up, because unless I make my own plans, then I'm stuck at home and it's starting to get lonely. Obviously I do try and make plans to see my friends but it's not always possible. The job I have isn't in central London, so people don't just 'pop' for drinks after work.
I moved my whole life to London for him, and he knows I don't have tons of friends or family here. AIBU to feel annoyed and fed up that he chooses to spend most of his evenings out with his friends? I also feel annoyed that the days he chooses to spend with me are the days other people don't go out (Monday/Tuesday). I dunno.... I just sometimes feel like I'm his second choice.
Please tell me if I'm being unreasonable and need to man the f**k up!!
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AIBU?
To be annoyed with my OH for going out 3 nights a week
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MilsCookie · 18/08/2017 19:45
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