a long time I've had concerns about DD's inability to make or sustain friendships and her behaviour in general. However DH just thinks she is a self-confident, bossy girl!
The behaviours she exhibits include:
Vocally very loud
Verbal diarrhoea, interrupts, contradicts. Her view/opinion must come first
Limited impulse control and self-regulation of behaviour. Can't stop doing whatever it is until the situation escalates
V bossy, always correcting people, telling people where they are going wrong
Inability to sustain friendships; makes a new 'BFF' one day then says that person is horrible within a couple of days
Always saying people "don't understand" her and often comes out of school saying there has been a falling out over something she doesn't understand ,
Becomes obsessed with a project than instantly moves on
No difference in behaviour at home if rewards or sanctions used.
She is gifted in drama so for a long time all this behaviour was just wrapped up as being "luvvy" inclined but I see it as way more than that and am now worried for her as she
Moves into year 5
We did approach the school a while back who did acknowledge that she is one a kind, but apart from a tendency to interrupt and fall out with people they didn't see a problem. I'm not convinced anymore.
12 DS can't bear to her around any of his friends as says she just has no "off button" and says the most excruciating embarrassing things to them 
Where do I go with this. She is emotinally mature enough to sometimes recognise her behaviour and gets upset about it but seems unable to change anything. Any help very gratefully received.
AIBU?
To think DD has ASD/ADHD - worrying symptoms
packofshunts · 29/07/2017 10:10
just place marking as we are starting the process for our 14yo dd. her behaviours include all of yours plus: stimming, extreme and violent tantrums eg up until the age of 12 perhaps 5 or 6 each day every day usually after school, no friends ever (which i understand as she is very hard work and comes across as rude), issues with gender identity. I'm on my phone so can't really list them all. her siblings are scared of her because of her agression. i think in isolation her behaviours could be considered normal but when put together they paint a picture. she has shown these behaviours since she was a toddler and because she is my first i thought it was normal/my shit parenting/a phase 
etc. i have posted on here over the years in desperation. I
things have come to a head and she is struggling at school despite being 'gifted' academically. I've also noticed that the difference between her and her peers/siblings is becoming more marked.
sorry i can't help you but wanted to say trust your instincts and you're not alone.
Parent of Aspergers child here (now adult) - I would talk to GP and school? School shared concerns we had and referred to a paediatrician and after a very detailed assessment we got a diagnosis. This was at secondary but it had been pretty obvious for years. At secondary school DS started to get into trouble with teachers because of behaviours so we asked for a diagnosis so he could be supported rather than penalised - so for us and him it was a great help.
It's often harder, I understand, to get a diagnosis with girls because of the ways girls are often socialised so fit in, so the signs sometimes aren't as obvious.
But my DS was classic on the eye contact thing, and actually still is (mid 20s) but you would never spot it because he has learned that he must look at people at the top of their nose and does that, so you feel like he is making eye contact but actually isn't. I'm always impressed and proud of how well he has done, consciously teaching himself the social skills to get on, that NT people do without thinking. In fact people usually say how charming and pleasant he is proud mama 
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