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I work full time at a quite well paid managerial job, but not enough to fully support a family.
DW would desperately love to be a full time painter, has some talent and has received some notice with a few small-scale exhibitions and a reasonable number of sales (nothing enough to make her well-known yet) - but nowhere near being able to make a living. Obviously it's quite rare to make a living in this or any creative profession. So we have set things up so that she has an office job 4 days a week and paints 2 days a week, we have 1 day a week "family" time which we either spend as quality time together or achieving household admin and/or housework that there isn't time for in the week.
Her office job is in a minor branch of the civil service, a junior role firmly below managerial level.
Due to a combination of idiocy at higher levels of government and administration, poor planning from management and understaffing of her immediate team, there is suddenly a very urgent need for a piece of work to be done tomorrow, and DW has been asked to give up what ought to be a painting day to do it. The only other person capable of doing the work is her manager, who wouldn't be as good at it as DW.
Whilst she would be given TOIL for this, I think she should say no. Her manager treats her badly all the time anyway (constantly critical and micromanaging without good reason) and regularly turns down reasonable requests from DW for odd days off if they aren't 100% convenient. I see no reason for her to go the extra mile and make a personal sacrifice to make up for other people's cockups. I also feel that we make significant sacrifices as a family to facilitate DW pursuing a creative career, and that therefore her painting days should be respected.
DW isn't very assertive and is minded to agree because saying no would be unpopular. I feel quite strongly that this is wrong. Am I right?
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mokaerisifhija · 27/07/2017 22:37
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