Brief context - I have a slightly strained relationship with my mother and sister, though I'm not sure they would see it that way. My sister is 10 years younger than me, so in her late teens. My mother was a drug addict when we were younger (functioning, in that bills mostly got paid, food was mostly in the cupboard etc) but that meant I did a lot of caring for my sister and hand holding for my mother. Sort of a second parent to my sister and a friend to my mother. It's a fairly dysfunctional relationship. They want my opinions and support only when they are having dramas, the rest of the time it feels like they don't want to hear what I think. Their relationship is very intense as neither of them have many friends and therefore they spend a lot of time together. It's taken some active work on my part to distance myself enough to get on with life and not get drawn in all the time. I try and keep boundaries as much as possible now as they've always been so blurred in the past. Sorry not very brief.
Anyway AIBU - mother texted yesterday morning asking if her and my sister could pop over later. I'd taken the kids out for the day and wasn't expecting to be back until 4 or 5 at which point I'd be cracking on with dinner as OH was going out at 7. So I said as much, that I would be back too late but offered to call in the evening.
So about 5.30pm they rolled up anyway? Not for any reason other than they'd bought a toy for DS1 (2). They then stayed nearly an hour, holding the baby and talking and generally making it hard to get on with the evening. Luckily OH had cancelled plans so was around to help out, but they didn't know that. If they'd turned up out of the blue I would have been mildly put out, but am finding it really annoying that they asked me and then just ignored my answer. It's another in a long list of times I've felt my thoughts were ignored so maybe I'm a bit over the top/sensitive but aibu to find this irritating?
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Extua · 22/07/2017 12:23
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