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Is this bullying? Or banter...

7 replies

Dottie39 · 28/06/2017 17:50

Hate the term banter... But my 9 year old son came out of school today complaining that an older girl who regularly "banters" with him today in assembly kept doing the slit throat, hand across throat sign, at him. He doesn't get the connotation except to know that he felt upset and a bit scared, his words. Previous banter includes name calling, Micky taking etc, she once said "looking at you makes me want to kill myself" which rang alarm bells but everything else has verged on pulling pigtails and my son is normally good for a retort... Should I say something to school?

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minionsrule · 28/06/2017 17:53

Yes you should, it is bullying

SheSaidHeSaid · 28/06/2017 17:54

Definitely bullying.

JustDanceAddict · 28/06/2017 17:55

That's not banter. Banter is 'friendly' teasing between mates, but if one doesn't like it, the other must stop.

BoneyBackJefferson · 28/06/2017 17:57

what people don't seem to understand is that if someone doesn't like it and it continues, then it is bullying.

monkeywithacowface · 28/06/2017 17:58

That's not banter that's bullying.

Dottie39 · 28/06/2017 18:00

That's my thought, but my son is dead set against me saying anything. I actually think he has a tiny crush on the girl bullying him which is a bit worrying...

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minionsrule · 28/06/2017 18:06

My ds reported his friend in school for racism 'banter'. Ds was confused as thought it couldn't be racism as this was his friend so must be funny. When i pointed out it was racism regardless of who was doing it he reported it. I think his friend was doing it more and more because no one pulled him up on it and it gradually got worse and worse till it was really offensive. If this girl isn't pulled up it will escalate

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