My ds is 11 and in yr7. He seems to have no awareness that his behaviour is the influencing factor and that this has consequences. For example;
He has recently had exams. Any attempts to help him/get him to revise were met with reticence. We didn't push it much as we felt he needed to learn. Consequently he didn't do particularly well. He was VERY upset about this. We talked about how he was only in YR7 and this was a good opportunity to learn from the experience and that it didn't matter right now etc etc.
He seemed to take it on board but actually his behaviours haven't changed in the slightest. He is chaotic, doesn't do his homework until the last possible minute, gets distracted very easily. If we try and challenge this we are met with full on toddler tantrums.
EVERYTHING is like this. He frequently has emotional meltdowns because he hasn't done as well as he would like, his teacher doesn't like him, his friends don't like him etc... But he does nothing at all to make anything different despite us trying to support him and guide him.
I am emotionally drained by him right now. He is very high maintenance emotionally and in some ways very insecure but I don't know how to help because he won't help himself at all.
Has anyone been through anything similar? How do we deal with this?
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thedcbrokemybank · 21/06/2017 10:14
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