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Is it me or is exdp being petty?

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Queenofthestress Mon 12-Jun-17 08:10:36

As some of you know me and exdp split a couple weeks ago, got my dad to take him the rest of his stuff and gave him 7 days (like the police said to) in writing to let my sister in law know if anything was missing, the 7 days ended on the 9th

His mum texted at 10pm on the 9th saying all the stuff that was missing - cutting it close but okay not fussed too much

She's now texted at 11pm last night asking for something he's forgot to ask for, I've found it, it's the size of a damn 2p and I spent an hour looking for the damn thing

Is he being petty or should I just suck it up?

TeaBelle Mon 12-Jun-17 08:12:36

If it's his then you should give it back, but then be clear that you don't want any more communication

Queenofthestress Mon 12-Jun-17 08:17:30

It's more so the fact that he keeps asking for things that were sent two weeks ago repeatedly, and she texted 5 times in a row about unrelated rubbish

I forgot to add that into the original post blush

humblesims Mon 12-Jun-17 08:18:48

Send it on and then block their numbers. Dont engage.

cestlavielife Mon 12-Jun-17 08:19:23

What is it
Is it easily replaceable
How much is it ?
(If of low value give him a replacement )

cestlavielife Mon 12-Jun-17 08:20:10

You want to stop having to engage so unless it is a gold ring worth thousands then replace or ignore

ArchieStar Mon 12-Jun-17 08:42:39

They've had enough opportunity now, so block their numbers and say any future communication regarding DD is to go through this person and this is their number. Good luck and well done for staying strong!! What you've done hasn't been easy!

NellieFiveBellies Mon 12-Jun-17 08:48:14

i would send it but with a letter saying that he was given the opportunity to list his belongings and you accomodated this further request but that you will not continue to do so. he now has everything his asked for and the matter is closed.

Queenofthestress Mon 12-Jun-17 08:50:53

@ArchieStar he's more bothered about his stuff then seeing his own daughter, he's asked about her once and that was after asking about his stuff :'(

My sister is their contact for arranging dropping off his stuff, I think she's going to take what we can find down then say stop contacting her as the house has been gutted so we know there's nothing left!

ArchieStar Mon 12-Jun-17 09:11:39

@Queenofthestress that's unbelievable!! It shows where you and her have been in his priorities all along sad and that you're soooo much better off without him!! Onwards and upwards for you and your family!

Queenofthestress Mon 12-Jun-17 12:38:54

@ArchieStar yep! His mum said that he was like a pining lost puppy after me, not for the kids, just for me so what does that say about him? Not a lot!

ArchieStar Mon 12-Jun-17 17:22:17

@Queenofthestress to put it ever so bluntly, he's not bothered about the baby but the thing that makes the baby angry good grief you're soooo better off without him!!!

Queenofthestress Mon 12-Jun-17 17:50:02

@ArchieStar so we gutted his crap our of the garden today, and guess what we found? Knives!! In full access of the kids!!

ArchieStar Mon 12-Jun-17 18:34:11

@Queenofthestress shockshockshockshock I have no words!!! Anything could've happened oh my days!!! It's a miracle it hasn't! angryangry I am so angry on behalf of you, he sounds vile!!!

Queenofthestress Mon 12-Jun-17 18:37:37

My sister rang his mum and went mental down the phone, her reaction was 'he didn't know it was dangerous'

ArchieStar Mon 12-Jun-17 20:03:28

My face reading your latest post.

He's a whole other level of stupid isn't he?

NellieFiveBellies Mon 12-Jun-17 20:08:54

why did your sister 'go mental' at his mum? was his choice to leave the knives in such a stupid place his mum's fault?
why didnt she call him and rant at him?

Queenofthestress Mon 12-Jun-17 20:19:10

She called his number, as soon as he picked up he passed her onto his mum, she didn't go full on stupidly shouting, she basically said 'you do realise that he left knives in the garden, next to something that was brightly coloured and would attract yanno the bloody three year old that lives here and didn't tell queen they were there, of all of the stupidest, moronic things he could have done he had to do that, what would he have done if DS fell on them and got seriously injured, it's be his damn fault because he decided to be so utterly stupid and not fucking think'
It was the most angry I'd ever seen her, she's normally quite passive
He refuses to sort out contact, collecting his stuff or anything himself, his mum does all of it so that doesn't give me high hopes of him coming to the contact centre

NellieFiveBellies Mon 12-Jun-17 20:20:52

urgh.
a mummy's boy.
they are just pathetic arent they?

Queenofthestress Mon 12-Jun-17 20:31:36

I've got a funny feeling that if he had unsupervised contact it'd be his mum doing everything for him because he just can't be assed to even learn how to look after DD, his mum bloody coddles him, even when he was screaming in my face her reaction was 'it's not his fault, he can't control it' hmm

ArchieStar Mon 12-Jun-17 21:52:50

hmmhmmhmm if he can't control it then he needs to be cared for properly I.e. NOT coddled by mummy but have experienced carers to help him get an independent life... oh wait no he doesn't he just needs to stop being a dick!!!

Queenofthestress Mon 12-Jun-17 21:58:09

I swear she didn't even attempt to raise him with the normal boundaries everyone else has, I think she's just thought 'fuck it, he's autistic, he's never gonna be like everyone else so why even bother' it's harder work, I get that, I'm doing it myself with DS but damn the fact that he's autistic seems to be her excuse for everything

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