Weekend arrangements during possible bereavement?

[Goodgonegirl]

Complicated situation, but basically I still live with my ex, due to financial reasons. We have two children aged 17 and 18 who live in family home also. I am currently in another relationship (long distance) and see partner every other weekend.

The issue is that ex's father is very ill - probably only got another few days left, and children are obviously very upset. I am due to spend this weekend with partner around 150 miles away. WIBU to suggest to partner I spend this weekend at home to support the children, so I am here if their grandfather were to pass away? I am worried that partner will say they are old enough to cope on their own and that they will have their dad around, and I should be with him as we have little time together st the moment, but obviously my priority is to my children. Don't know what to do really. Advice please?

[jarhead123]

Yes I would support your children and if they want you around I'd stay.

Your partner should understand, if he doesn't then I'd seriously consider the relationship

[Sirzy]

To be honest if a man was to say that to me the answer to the problem would be obvious as I would never see him again

Stay with your children. They need you.

[stopfuckingshoutingatme]

What PP said and if he doesn't understand that's a red flag -

[stopfuckingshoutingatme]

Sorry for you tough times

[Creampastry]

Your children should come first of course. If your partner has an issue with it then it's a huge red flag and he will be a knob.

[Tiptoethr0ughthetulips]

There's only one place you need to be this weekend and if your partner can't understand that then I'm afraid he'd have to jog on.

[peukpokicuzo]

Yep if your new partner doesn't say "of course you need to be there for your kids" then that new partner is not a keeper.

Could you afford a hotel room nearby so new partner can come to you and you can still have some time together if grandpa clings on to life till Monday?

[harderandharder2breathe]

Yanbu, and if your new partner doesn't understand then that's a massive red flag. You're a parent, your kids come first.

[JakeBallardswife]

Prioritise your kids, easy.

[PatriciaHolm]

How is this even a question?

If you want to stay, stay. Nothing to do with him.

[DonaldStott]

Just to reflect what PPs have said. If it is even an issue in your boyfriends mind, then he is an absolute knob.

[emmyrose2000]

Your children must obviously come first in this situation. If your new partner can't understand or accept that, then he's not worth hanging onto.

[TheNaze73]

Children first. Every time.

He'll understand