Abiu and unfair to feel this way

[Herbie22]

I posted this in realationships but would like to see some more opinions :-)
I have had anxiety issues since I was about sixteen. When I was pregnant I was anxious about the baby's movements to the point where I made myself quite ill.
Now baby is born I feel more relaxed about her but my anxiety is manifesting in a different way. I have become obsessed with the idea that OH will be angry with me.
OH is a good man and the love of my life. Obviously we have arguments, but who doesn't. He has never shouted at me but now I'm obsessed with the idea that he will. I feel scared to talk to him in case I upset him. Despite having a newborn baby I'm obsessed with keeping my house spotless and all ironing and washing done as much as possible in case OH shouts at me for not keeping the house to his standard. Deep down I know he won't but I still worry about it all day. I don't want to upset OP but I'm worried I'll make myself sick if I keep up like this. I'm sure he would feel awful if he knew I felt like this. Can anyone advice me on how to broach the subject with him?

[JustKeepDancing]

I suspect that it's not him that you need to talk to - but your GP or HV... All your partner can do is reassure you but if you have small children, are both exhausted and sleep deprived then there will may occasionally be snapping at each other. It seems to me that addressing the source - your anxiety - and asking for his help in approaching professionals may be a not helpful thing for you all, baby included, in the long term.
Best wishes to you

[JustKeepDancing]

"may be a not" should say "may be a more"

[bridgetreilly]

There was a recent piece on Woman's Hour about post-partum anxiety and other mental health issues, not just depression. Definitely see a doctor about it.