NDN and I have 3 kids each, roughly the same ages. We've always had a good relationship, both happy for the kids to come and go between the houses, no problem.
This afternoon (we don't have school Friday afternoons) my 11 yr old was away out with his friends, my 10 yr old was at home playing playstation and my 5 yr old was next door.
I wanted to go to the post office so I went next door and asked was it ok for 5 yr old to stay with her for 15 minutes max while I went to the post office? I'm fine with my 10 yr old being home by himself.
She said that was fine, she wasn't going anywhere, and I said she could send them all round to me when I got back if she wanted some peace.
I got home less than 10 minutes later, the post office had been empty and I'd been able to park right outside, and all of the kids were in my house. Her youngest is only 3. So 5 kids aged from 10 down to 3 running around my house by themselves. Her youngest was standing on a rotating breakfast bar stool trying to reach some sweets from the kitchen cupboard. Luckily he didn't fall off and break a leg.
Our side door is always unlocked, the kids know that, so had just let themselves in (which is usually totally fine).
AIBU to be annoyed that I had asked her to look after my 5 yr old for 15 minutes, she had agreed, then she let all the kids come round to mine when I wasn't in? I specifically went round to let her know I was going out and check it was ok.
In her defence she might have assumed I was back, but the car was clearly still gone and she would have seen that if she'd looked out the window.
The kids might have slipped out without her noticing, but we have pretty small houses and you would notice if 4 not particularly quiet kids had suddenly left. But I don't know, maybe she genuinely didn't notice.
I really want to go round and tell her I'm not happy, but am I over-reacting? I don't want to spoil a relationship that's worked fine for years and usually suits us both and makes the kids happy.
Would you say anything? Or should I give her the benefit of the doubt and think she just didn't realise?
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teaandakitkat · 12/05/2017 13:37
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