Two boys, 7 & 10. Divorced from their dad, who has them about 30-40% of the time. I get up at 5am each weekday and work a lot of evenings and at weekends too - not in a manual job, but a teacher. I'm pretty tired a lot of the time.
They are both early risers not matter what time they go to bed. Ds1 can be up before 6 at weekends. He is sports mad and will have taped Match of the Day, cricket when it's on C5 etc etc. Then ds2 will go down . He doesn't like sport but will sit in front of it when it's on, then, of course, it's 'his turn' and they put a film on. So by the time I get up (about 7-7.30 at weekends) and have breakfast, they will be starting on the third hour of screen - or at least ds1 will. If I then insist it goes off a huge drama ensues as it's not fair, ds1 has had a choice and ds2 not etc etc.
Ds1 is actually pretty good about getting up and going outside at this point, but I still feel it's way too much and, if I want to watch a film with them later, or watch some Saturday evening tv, it makes me feel guilty as it adds up to about 5-6 hours some day. Today he is recovering from a bug, but still got up at stupid o'clock, doesn't feel like going out, so it's still on. I think he deliberately wakes, though doesn't have an alarm, because he knows I limit it and he wants to get some in before I wake up.
Neither are much into toys or puzzles, despite my best efforts - it's really playing out (so can be weather restricted) or screen and it makes me feel shit. We do quite a lot of outings, but can't be out all the time and today both of them feel below par.
To make it worse I know they both have pretty much unlimited screen time at their dad's so I feel I should be stricter to compensate. However, it's creeping up and up and it feels like the more time they spend there they more 'in the habit' they are and unlikely to consider other activities. I either give in, or face a lot of conflict when I want to be making the most of my time with them.
WIBU to worry less about screen time to have a more harmonious time with them. As they get older, it's harder and harder to encourage them into other activities.
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To think it's impossible to keep screen usage to a certain limit in these circumstances
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financialiasco · 30/04/2017 10:24
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