This drives me crazy. I'm a single mum, not making much, but not minimum wage either. Plus I get child support. I like our house, we eat well, our car is very old, we buy used clothes, I can't afford to travel, we get our hair cut at the super-saver chains. Lots and lots of economies made. The kids get clothes for their birthdays, can't afford games etc.
I was out tonight w a lovely old friend who's moved away and another old friend (though second one is more friend of a friend). First friend asks when I'll come and visit her. I say I'm sorry but I can't afford to go to the next town never mind thousands of miles away (Canada, very long distances). She makes a sympathetic face, she's a nice and decent person. Friend of friend pipes up that she's gone to visit using air miles! Mmhmm, I say, but you do travel (she goes abroad every year). She says "oh, but when I visited it was on air miles". Then turns to mutual friend and says "where shall we go this year? Chicago or Mexico?"
Not that I mind her travelling but don't in one breath say you can only travel due to air miles and then discuss swanky holidays I can only dream of. Pretending we have the same amount of disposable income doesn't make me feel better, it makes me very, very irritated. She's childless btw, similar income to me, inherited a shedload of money so no mortgage.
Then when I was saying I was tired working full-time while single-parenting she said "I work 80 hours a week so I was confused when you said you were tired on 38! I thought I misheard you! Boy I guess I work too much!" She does this (claiming to work 60-80 hours a week every.fucking.time I see her. And a) I don't believe her (knowing her job & her industry it's just not required or necessary) b) it makes her sound like a sad workaholic not the Queen of the Work Ethic she's aiming for.
AIBU or is this weird competitive behaviour? I don't go on at people on benefits or minimum wage about what a struggle my life is - because that would be rude to expect them to feel sympathy for someone on more than them. I feel whinging about money can go up (in audience's income levels) but not down. And the claiming 80 hours a week of work is getting up my nose too.
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lizzieoak · 30/04/2017 07:52
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