to think this is not a day off or day to myself?

[Fairweather123]

DH said "Have some time off you look after the children all week"(currently on ML and have a 23 month old and a 6 month old). So this afternoon he's taken 23 month old out with him to the park (which is great) but I have 6 month old at home with me and the tidying up, washing, getting dinner on etc to do.....

How is this time off? Anyone else find this happens on a Sunday?

[WishfulThanking]

Why didn't he take the baby?!

[PuppyMonkey]

You should have legged it out the door as soon as he said it and left him to it.

Did you not ask why he wasn't taking the six month old out too?

[KateDaniels2]

Why not ask him to take the 6 month old as well?

Ignore the tidying etc and get him to do the dinner.

[WorraLiberty]

God no, I'd never let that happen

Why didn't you challenge him and ask him what he meant about 'time off'?

He should have taken the baby to the park with the 2 year old obviously.

And then you should have had time off, leaving the housework/dinner for the pair of you.

[Ethylred]

Leave the tidying, leave the washing, leave the etc. (unless that's a euphemism for something fun) and spend the afternoon teaching the baby Grand Theft Auto. Then Deliveroo for dinner.

[Allthebestnamesareused]

No don't Deliveroo for dinner!! He can fo it when he gets in!

[redexpat]

So he said have some time off but what he really meant was I will lighten the load slightly so that you can catch up on housework. Hmm.

[OhhBetty]

He should have taken the 6 month old obviously. However, it sounds like you chose to do the housework etc, I would have left it tbh and done it together when the kids were in bed. He can cook tea or takeaway when he's back.

[Crunchymum]

Is he having a giraffe? He left you with the baby after telling you to have some time to yourself?

[BaxterStockboy]

Did you ask him why he wasnt taking the 6 month old? Is the baby breast fed and dh thought he'd be out while baby needed a feed? Or maybe he just wanted to spend some 1-1 time with the toddler?

If he actually thought leaving you with the baby was giving you some time off, I would get myself and toddler ready next Sunday and say 'we're off out, thought I'd give you some time off' and leave him with the baby, the washing, etc. See how he likes it!

[RedSkySuperStar]

YANBU next weekend go out for the day and leave him to it!

[GrandDesespoir]

Whose was the expectation that you would spend the day doing housework? Your DH's, or yours?

[jeaux90]

Prize idiot. Yes next weekend tell him you are off out for some proper you time.

[Obsidian77]

Yes, tell him you are very much looking forward to your time off, you'll be heading out at 9am on Saturday and will be back about 5.

[Whereismumhiding2]

Yeah....!! Lol! He took one of your two DC! Not really "having the children so you can rest!"
Next time, ... you go out and leave him with both DC and chores/ tea to cook!
Go sleep in your car if you have to!

[Dishwashersaurous]

Did he genuinely mean you were having a break, or did he just mean I will make it a bit easier by taking one away.

Did he expect you to do housework? Can it wait

Or did he think baby might nap and you can put feet up and mumsnet

[Dishwashersaurous]

Did he genuinely mean you were having a break, or did he just mean I will make it a bit easier by taking one away.

Did he expect you to do housework? Can it wait

Or did he think baby might nap and you can put feet up and mumsnet

[2014newme]

I'd have given him both kids and gone somewhere nice for the day by myself.

[Dishwashersaurous]

And don't make dinner. Wait for him to get back and he can make it

[2014newme]

It's a communication issue is all. He was trying to be nice.

[StinkPickle]

If taking half of your children with him counts as giving you time off then you've just given HIM the day off by also keeping half the children.

When he gets home ask if he enjoyed his day off