Currently 9 weeks pregnant and feeling shitty - tired, queasy, really emotional, hungry... just the usual I suppose! I feel DH is not being very sympathetic - this is my first pregnancy and it's all feeling really alien and all these changes to my body are a bit overwhelming.
Went to bed at 9 as I was exhausted and now can't sleep. Am awake and eating twiglets in bed 
meanwhile DH is on a night out which he said was going to be just a few drinks, he keeps texting saying he's staying out later and has bumped into more friends. He knows I'm feeling rotten and we're going on holiday tomorrow (long haul flight which I'm dreading) and need to leave early.
We also spent most of Sunday in the pub (until midnight) with his brothers - I wasn't drinking - I asked quite a few times if we could leave as I was driving but it was always 'one more drink'.
Aibu to think he's being a bit self-centred at the moment and I wouldn't love him to come home and look after me a bit? I don't usually mind him going out at all.
AIBU?
Or is my DH being thoughtless?
pomadas87 · 22/04/2017 01:44
Hmmm. You are being a teeny bit precious. You don't really need looking after if you are honest. Early pregnancy can be rotten but what would you be expecting him to actually do if he were home? (Be sleeping I expect)
However if you are meant to be leaving early for your holiday and the drinking is getting in the way of that YANBU, but the pregnancy is irrelevant to that.
Re the drinking with his brothers. Next time say "I'm not feeling well I'm going home in 20 minutes and then stick to that - he can get a taxi home.
Meanwhile, switch off your phone (it won't help you sleep) go make a milky drink and read a book until you drop off.
Congratulations on your pregnancy. 
Thanks for the replies. I am wondering if this is actually just mad pregnancy hormones.. I'm not usually like this with him!
If he were at home he'd probably sit up with me and we'd have a cup of tea and chat - he's recently back from working away for a month and it's just nice to have him here.
I will try to chill out... if he crashes in drunk and stinking of cigarettes I may tell him to sleep on the sofa however!! WIBU?! 
How best to broach the subject? He knows I don't really sleep when he's not here and he's said previously 'he can't do anything about that' 
Shall I just say I found it a bit self-centred when he knows we're off on holiday in the morning on a 14 hour flight - and we'll both have about 4hours sleep at this rate..?
I'd recommend not starting by calling him self-centred. Best to avoid any name-calling, however justified.
I would also wait until you've got through the stress of the journey and are both more relaxed. Part of communicating well really is about choosing the right moment.
And then, just explain how it makes you feel. Try to avoid value judgements and absolutist statements. Listen to his responses - properly listen. And then think before replying. And call him out on it if he doesn't do the same. When he says he can't do anything about something, point out what he can do. ("Like come home on time and not wake me up you bloody bellend ")
In advance you could think through what the underlying issue is for you, so you can calmly keep bringing the conversation back to that.
And ultimately if he won't listen and engage then you should insist on counselling. Because communicating gets harder when life becomes more stressful (like when sleep deprived with a newborn, and when stressed by a tantruming toddler...) and learning to communicate well now is really essential for your continued happiness together.
Good luck
I'd be pissed off.
Reverse it. If my DH was feeling a bit ill, crap, upset, would I go out? No.
You're entitled to feel hormonal and sometimes irrational your body is growing a human. And his job is to indulge you 
Congratulations btw x
This may be a massive generalisation but I have found that men don't see the issue with behaving as before as they don't realise the changes you are going through- they don't realise that you have to become a mother as soon as you are pregnant because they don't need to become a father until the baby is here (then they get a shock)...
I would speak to him when you are on holiday and explain the changes, I was pretty chilled most of the time about my DP going out but my hormones and tiredness from
Insomnia sometimes gave me the rage and I let him know how miserable I found it all.
for you OP, the 2nd trimester is so much easier - and stop eating twiglets YABU for that
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