I work in a school so luckily on school holidays now. Last week when I was still at work my dad was taken into hospital and was there all week I visited each night after work. My husband has MS was diagnosed last year we are all still coming to terms with what this means for him and for us as a family. This week my 10 year old is at brownie camp dropped her off Monday have to pick her up 10am tomorrow I told ds 7 we would have some time together he requested a trip to Manchester to a museum. On Monday oh came home early from work with chest pains. He has some narrowing of the arteries and is due to have an angioplasty next Tuesday. I rang an ambulance and he was eventually sent home they said he just needed to cope until Tuesday and see his gp for pain killers and a nitrate spray which we did. On Tuesday even with the nitrate spray and pain killers the pains were much worse I rang 111 they sent an ambulance at 8pm he was finally seen at 6am after sitting on a chair in the corridor for 10 hours, again told nothing they could really do and that the angioplasty should help. I got a couple of hours of sleep and then had to get up with ds we had a boring day watching films. I told him I would take him to soft play today which I did, he's been so good about everything but I know he was really looking forward to a few days with my undivided attention which he hasn't had. Apart from trips to A&E and the gp and a few hours at work on Monday oh has been in bed since he got home from work on friday. Today the hospital rang to cancel his angioplasty no idea when he will have it now.
I'm exhausted I'm fed up of holding it together and being strong for everyone I just want to curl up in a ball and cry.
AIBU?
So so tired I've had enough.
jmh740 · 13/04/2017 22:39
Oh bless you what a horrible time you're having. I have nothing to offer but my sympathy and I hope you manage to get some rest soon. Is there anyone who could take the children for a few hours just so you could get in bed with OH and have a sleep? Sending 
sounds really really tough.
DS sounds like a trooper. Try not to feel guilty, I'm sure he understands. Little moments of talking, cuddles, sharing a film on the couch can make up for so much.
Think about your best relationships, it's all the little things that really add up, not the grand gestures.
Best wishes to your DH
That all sounds awful, and I'm so sorry you have all this to deal with.
Surely the hospital must have a back up plan to use the angioplasty machine at another hospital for example. How is your dh now? It sounds worrying if he has pain at rest as the poster above said.
I'm sure you're already aware, but just in case you're too tired to think straight, you need to know in advance where to go if you feel his condition is worsening. Would it be worth phoning 111 or the emergency doctor at your surgery and asking their advice? Hopefully they may be able to arrange for him to be seen at another hospital.
Of course, if you happened to be out in another area visiting friends an hour or so away, and his condition deteriorated, then you would have to take him to be seen at the nearest hospital, and they'd have to see him, i believe....
to you
Lovely I'm so sorry you are going through all of this and staying strong. You are much stronger than you realise. I can understand that some of the unhappiness is that you feel guilty towards your son for not giving him time. But I can guarantee that he will be picking up on everything that you are going through and would not enjoy a full day out as he will pick up on your mood. Just remember this is only one holiday and soon there will be half term.
I'm sorry about your dad and dp, could you call any societies like the Ms society to see what support for you and your family there is?
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