I don't go out often, so I'm like a kid in a toy shop if I get to go to the supermarket. I get the essentials DH usually forgets, then a few little bits for the children, then some things to say thank you to DH. He always moans when I do this, but then he'll happily eat what I get, plus what I get for myself. So been trying smoothies, he's been making salads and having fruit cut up for breakfast.
It just seems a bit two faced that I never get a thank you, but he'll eat the stuff almost right away anyway.
For Easter doing something different, I think it's pretty cool if instead of eggs you donate money to a charity of your choice. DC's are always going on about Wateraid which provides clean water to 3rd world countries.
I thought I should grab something else, I noticed that there's a craze for Pop Vinyl figures, they do Disney, also Super Heroes, Harry Potter, Walking Dead, Fantastic Beasts, GoT. So to gauge what the children think of them I got one eat, plus a book for DS on puberty and how the teenage mind works, rated quite high which is cool, so hopefully will help. Got DD some Enid Brighton books.
I thought DH would feel left out, so looked at CD's from the year he left school, super cheap as they didn't really do CD's then I think they were just coming out. Also got some kinetic tape, a wrap around heat pack you microwave and bungee cord to fasten it round the joint. I just know he's going to say why did you bother, but at the same time he'll use all of it. Will have to figure how the kinetic tape works.
Yesterday had a visitor, totally unannounced, but let them in. It was a MDT thing making sure I was ok given my current prognosis, how they could help, what's available. DH got really annoyed that I let them in without an appointment, they happened to be in the area, I didn't check ID, but I'm rather trusting. I found it really helpful, I feel really informed. He's going to try and find out who it was a have a go. Ok I was sleeping, but it was really nice having people to talk to. (DC out all day at theme park!)
He moans about having to do stuff, then moans when people say oh we could do that. This is available to help you there.
If God could have zapped me there and then last night I'd have been happy. I felt so cheery having spoke to these people, then DH pisses on my fireworks.
After I pressed order I did think for a bit should I have bothered trying to be helpful, seeing as it's a dead very he's going to moan. It's not money or that, he just doesn't want me buying him stuff, but he forgets how well I know him and also that I thought it was thoughtful getting a couple of CD's with stuff from his school leaving year.
I can't remember what I got myself, I think it was a book on how to survive with teenagers. Apparently it's quite witty.
If someone moaned when you tried to do nice stuff, would you say fuck it and not bother? I do offer to help with stuff I can do sat down, but get told not to bother. It's at the point now where I rely on a relative who doesn't mind helping, as it's such a chore and big deal for him to do it.
I really like helping, but I don't like feeling crappy about it. I was in such a good mood last night, knowing what was out there for people with degenerative, life limiting illnesses, it really lifted me with the visitors, which didn't last, when it turned into being moaned at.
They're putting a pack together so I can go on the waiting list for appropriate housing, get help etc, then DH can find himself an amazing woman then realise this is what life is. You get up, get the children to school, go to work, chill, bed, repeat.
They did say at one point, what if Mr Right came along. My username is basically a play on the dreams you have as a kid about being grown up and loved etc. So I replied I don't know if it'll be classed as being a spinster, but that's what I'm happy with.
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