Four years ago in March we bought our first house a day or two after DP niece's second birthday. I'd bought her present in January, but as our lives were packed into boxes and everything was chaos, she didn't get her present on her birthday. DP's brother and wife live about an hour away, so we didn't see them around the birthday. It's not like we'd turned up at their house empty handed, we hadn't seen them. About 2 weeks later, DP got a message from his brother saying how disappointed his wife was that DD hadn't received a card and present, how DD had been disappointed (at 2?) and that as her only uncle and 'guideparent' they expected more. I was furious at the message, but at the time, DP asked me not to say anything, so I kept quiet. Niece received plenty of presents from other friends and family, so certainly wasn't deprived.
Fast forward to 2017 - Niece turned 6 a month ago. We gave her a card and present - we didn't see niece on her birthday, but grandmother brought it with her as she helped out at the bday party. We have seen DP's brother and niece's at least twice since the birthday (although not his wife). So far there has been no acknowledgement that we gave a present. No thank-you text, no card or note.
AIBU to think this is incredibly ungrateful? I think what annoys me is how quick they were to point out that we'd NOT given anything, but when we do give a gift, NOTHING! I'm certainly not expecting anything fancy - but surely a text or whatsapp or facebook message to acknowledge they received it would suffice?
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Bake · 09/04/2017 09:07
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