I'm genuinely interested to hear points of view.
Since meeting my DH 8 years ago I've gained around 2.5 stone, I don't particularly carry it well- it's definitely noticeable as a 2.5 stone gain would be! Happened gradually over the years. DH is a lovely man and assures me he isn't at all bothered by this, other than the fact it is now bothering me, still fancies me etc and I believe him.
However it did get me thinking...would he really be unreasonable if actually he was bothered? Should we make a reasonable physical effort to maintain what we presented when we met? (ageing aside obviously and reasons whereby weight gain/physical changes have not been avoidable such as health issues). I'm talking where the weight gain was gained through laziness and too much eating out!! We have no children together either so it's not baby weight.
My opinion is that I can do what I like with my body- cut my hair, pierced it, tattoo it, gain weight, lose weight, it's mine. I do however think that if my DH didn't like it he would not bu.In all honesty I don't think I'd like it if he gained 2.5 stone- I'd still love him, obviously, but physically I'd probably fancy him a little less if I'm being honest and I think that's reasonable. It would bu if I loved him less because of weight gain.
Waffling now so I'll stop...thoughts please?
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BlueDaisies · 06/04/2017 14:41
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