To think that guidance teachers fucked this up?

[ohhdearieme]

My son (14) was recently involved in a police incident. I don't want to go too much into detail as it's quite specific but basically, it involved breaking and entering/stealing/vandalism. DS and two other boys have all been spoken to by police and the way that it is progressing forward with the police I have no issues with.

However, school responded by suspending all three of them till Monday of this week (they got suspended on Wednesday). DS was grounded by me so couldn't go out anyway, but the other two boys have next to no boundaries set by their parents and I saw them out regularly in town. That was my first concern - that surely an in-school suspension would have worked better as it keeps the boys in school and out of trouble yet they're still punished?

Secondly, since they got back no one has spoken to my son about his actions. All 3 got pulled into the head of guidance's office for a one-minute "don't let us down again and be good" pep talk on the first day back but DS's guidance teacher hasn't spoken to him at all about it. Isn't that a guidance teachers job?

Aibu or would you expect guidance to have acted better in this situation? I understand with police proceedings still happening it may be tricky but surely they have a duty (in particular the head of guidance, who's the key adult/named person) to communicate with the boys and us in this manner?

Any advice gratefully received!

[HallowedMimic]

Unless they boys are boarding, or they broke into/vandalised the school, I can't imagine why you think the guidance team would be involved at all.

Aren't they more for academic support, and dealing with learning disability support.

They might give other staff a heads up if a child is bereaved or something, but criminal charges aren't really their remit.

[ohhdearieme]

HallowedMimic they have a duty (I think) to get involved if it's a safeguarding issue, which I'm pretty sure this is. In addition to this all 3 boys (unfortunately including my own son) have a history of bad behaviour and punishment within school, which I thought would have flagged it up as more of a warning sign.

[PopCakes]

If the incident happened outside of school I would have thought it was the responsibility of the parents. I might expect the school to have a word as they have I wouldn't have thought more would have been. I agree with you though that an in school exclusion would have been more beneficial.