I think a friend has gone cold on me. We have known each other for about four years and met through work and there had never been any weirdness between us before it's always been an easy going friendship and we share the same sense of humour. He's a gay guy I'm a straight female. We don't see each other that often due to busy lives but thought he was one of my closest friends and I have confided a lot in him and vice versa.
About six weeks ago I went to his house for drinks, this is something we would do occasionally, stay in watch TV and have a couple of glasses of wine. We are both very silly and were dancing to cheesy music. We were both drunk and I may be imagining this but I felt uncomfortable at one point and thought he was going to try and kiss me. I can't stress how mad that is to even write that down, he is gay and has had long term relationships with men and only men. I acted like I didn't think anything of it (nothing actually happened it was just a feeling I had) and left all fine texting that night and I thought nothing of it. I only mention it now because since then I think he's been off-ish with me and I've been wracking my brains for a reason.
We were meant to have a night out since then which he cancelled in a flippant way he is normally hugely enthusiastic about meeting up. I have been texting him and he replies with friendly but short answers and he isn't himself. I have seen on Facebook yesterday he was out with mutual friends and didn't invite me.
I may be 100% wrong about that I thought happened that night in fact I think it's more likely that I am wrong but can anyone help me think of a reason why a friend pulls away? I feel like he's a bit angry or irritated with me and I don't know why and I'm really upset. I can't just ask him as there's nothing tangible.
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WhistlingBetty · 05/03/2017 22:18
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