normal Saturday, stuff to do, I did breakfast, took dd1 into town this am, then came backand had to sort gift for party this pm, sorted and processed several loads of washing, got kids doing Saturday jobs etc.
Dh has oven out on the floor trying to fix it (but has decided after an hour that he can't do it right now, so it pottering upstairs, possibly looking on-line for oven help, I am not sure.)
Dh is normally totally joint parent, whoever is in gets lunch etc.
So, it is 1:30, dh says let's have lunch, (so we are all running a bit late). Pretty informal lunch, dds getting left overs out of fridge, dh got out bread and cheese etc. As we were finishing dd1 is begging me to come and play her new game (birthday was this week and she got the game and we haven't had a chanc eto play it) I look at the clock, it is 2 pm, and I have to leave at 2:30 to take dd2 to a party, so I say, come on then we can quickly fit in a game, and leave the lunch table for dh to clear up.
I get back at 4 pm and the lunch table has been cleared, except for my plate and dd1s.
I really saw red. To me this is so petty. I feel like I have been running round doing kids stuff, his turn was to clear the lunch away, but he won't celar away my plate. It feels to me like being in one of those student houses. So at 4 pm, I clear my plate and dds, and then tidy and clear up a load of other stuff in the kitchen , and put the lunch stuff in dishwasher, and go on with washing, and then turf ds off the x box to make him do the jibs he has avoided all day which dh hasn't bothered to get him to do, despite the fact that he has been at home with ds, while I have been out with dds. Same with dd1.
Sopke to dh. told him how hurtful and petty the whoel lunch plate thing is, and how it just doesn't feel like we are a team working together when he does this. (it isn't the first time, I have no idea what the issue is with lunch plates)
His take on it is that each person should just put their own plate away, and he is often the last to finish and then he ends up clearing the table. He feels like why should he clear up after everyone.
I understand this, but then I think he needs to address it at the time, make the kids do it at the time, and to come in at the end of the day and find a plate looking at me, because I tried to fit dd1s game in is pretty poor. And I have spent all day clearing up after everyone, so the least he coudl do is one sodding plate.
He doesn't get it.
I know this is written biased to me.
But who is BU?
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So, which of us is BU? Dh or me?
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steppemum · 04/03/2017 18:09
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