I have started a new job and have been there 6 months. I love it. There is a main office, but there's not enough desks in there so there's a second side office with three desks. We are supposed to hot desk but most people get in before me and sit on the same desk each day.
I most often go in the main office but if it looks like the desks are taken I go in the smaller one. But, whenever I do, there is a guy I work with that immediately comes in and tells me there's a desk free and to go into the main office. If I say oh I like it in here as it's quieter he just says 'come in' we're (having cake/making tea/discussing so and so project).
Everyone has to take a turn to sit in there. He hates it in there but I like the quiet at times. If anyone else sits in there he doesn't even notice. It's only because I clearly come across as vulnerable in some way and in need of being in the main office and socialising 🙄
I'm guessing he thinks i will be lonely and wants to make me feel included. As I'm new he's making a special effort. He also pretends he needs to 'get away from his desk' in the main office when I'm sat in the smaller office and eats his lunch sat with me. If I'm in the main office too,he never needs to 'get away from his desk'. He just stays sat at his desk in the main office all day.
I started sitting in the little office for lunch and he started coming in to 'get away from his desk in the main office'.
I don't take this as him hitting on me or anything. He's made it very clear from the first day that he's dating someone. We just have friendly chats.
I'm presuming he's just trying to make me feel welcome which I really appreciate. But it's a bit annoying. I'm 31 and a very outgoing, confident , genuinely sociable woman who has already made several friends at work. I am chatty and bubbly at work not quiet and unsociable. I don't need to be made to feel welcome to this extent and feeling i should be left alone to sit in the smaller office if I want to. And if I'm sat there, not to have him come in specially to give me company. I'm not a baby.
I know he's trying to be nice. But it's annoying me. There's not exactly anything I can say. He's just being nice. But it's secretly annoying and I need to vent on here and be told I'm not being unreasonable. So, AIBU?
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user1487365597 · 17/02/2017 21:12
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