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AIBU?

man flu and moodiness.

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measles64 · 17/02/2017 19:48

Hubby been lolling on the sofa all day with a cold aka man flu, I have had no tv at all so I put on a you tube thing, turned down low. Has caused a massive strop because he was watching rugby which I had not even noticed. I turned off you tube he still stropped off to bed. Was I being unreasonable to have put you tube on. I was not being deliberately awkward as he has insisted, he has been sat on the sofa channel hopping for seven hours I had no idea what he was watching at that moment in time.

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auntyhiro · 17/02/2017 19:57

YABU to call illness 'man flu' when the NHS is trying to prevent the early and preventable deaths of men caused by their unwillingness to seek treatment because supposed loved ones abuse them.

What would you have thought if you were watching tv and he fired up the ipad with no headphones on?

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measles64 · 17/02/2017 20:12

Um I only get the tv about one hour a night to watch something I like and he huffs and puffs about it being rubbish all the way through. I pay for Sky I would like to be able to watch it. I appreciate Gold Rush, Duck Tales, go fishing, pawn tales and the like may be more informative than The Halcyon but I do like a bit of escapism now and again.

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Chloe84 · 17/02/2017 20:19

YANBU, OP. Sounds like he was looking for an excuse. You said you pay for Sky...does he pay his fair share of bills? You need to reclaim remote for equal viewing!

Auntyhiro - what are you on about. Men don't generally die from manflu

OP, ignore.

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auntyhiro · 17/02/2017 20:20

...as with so many threads, its not really about what you originally outlined...

If you wanted to watch something you need to work out equitable division of the tv, playing a video simultaneously is totally PA and seems like you intend to provoke a reaction because you are unhappy with the situation

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BaconMaker · 17/02/2017 20:22

auntyhiro I imagine OP wouldn't mind her DH putting on the ipdad if she'd been hogging the TV and channel hopping for 7 hours! I'm assuming this was their living room not a cinema so if he was watching something that required his full attention he could just ask her to put headphones on nicely.

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measles64 · 17/02/2017 21:45

It was a you tube link on fb, I did not realise it was disturbing his rugby match I usually do use earphones but on my tablet, when we go to bed he likes the tv on so if I am not tired I put the earphones in to listen to netflix so I do try to be thoughtful I close the top down on the tablet so the flickering light does not disturb him. I gave up on a bedside lamp for reading years ago because he hates light in the bedroom.

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booklooker · 17/02/2017 21:52

Must be his hormones.

Treat him gently, hopefully this will pass in a day or so

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Funnyface1 · 17/02/2017 22:12

I think he was just grumpy because he's poorly. Currently having flu myself and a throat so sore I can hardly cope that no painkillers are touching, I can sympathise with him. But he can't be too rude to you. I'm trying to stay nice.

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ChuckSnowballs · 17/02/2017 22:25

If he is ill, he should be in bed. Otherwise he can't be that Ill.

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mrsmuddlepies · 17/02/2017 22:32

There is so much one sided sexism from some posters on MN. It would never be tolerated about women. True feminism is about equality. I can't stand the casual use of sexist terms like mansplain, man flu and man child. So many of the characteristics of these terms could equally be applied to women. Using generalised sexist comments is against the spirit of MN. You can moan about your husband but you should not use lazy sexist stereotypes to somehow blame the whole of mankind for your experience.

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measles64 · 18/02/2017 14:00

Man flu is now a recognised thing. Men suffer more with these viruses than women for some reason. I know two Fathers one hospitalised with mumps the other with chicken pox. Feminists activist whatevers should pick their battles more carefully, otherwise they risk being side tracked by inconsequential remarks made by your run of the mill tired Mother which weakens their case imo.

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Talllara · 18/02/2017 14:17

I'm not keen on the saying manflu, it was made up to say men exaggerate when they're ill which generally isn't my experience.

As a pp says, quite the opposite.

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measles64 · 18/02/2017 14:31

Well until the medical establishment come up with a latin name for it we are stuck with man flu, which although not accurate is the best we have.